Replies to 'Childhood Sexual Abuse Support'

MJKKAS I think that is a lovely way to pick your name. Mussy was the nickname my dad had for me and has good feelings attached to it. Believe it or not that was already taken so Mel is from my actual name. It kind of sound like messymel as well which is how I feel alot of the time and definitely how my house looks most of the time :)!!!

Thanks for the advice but setting limits with my mother is like trying to reason with a dictator! The thing is she never believes she does anything wrong and is very very difficult to argue with. She always wins because she has conditioned the responses I give so she knows what buttons to push etc. She is a very controlling and manipulative person. The thing is she isn't welcome in my home. I finally have security and safety and I'm not letting her in here. I just don't want to have to tell her that! BIG COWARD. I have forgiven my brother for what he did but I will never be able to forgive her and I am tired of the effect she has on my life. I would really really like to get the courage to cut her out of my life completely but life is never simple is it. Someday soon it is all going to come out and then maybe the choice will be made for me.

Anyway tomorrow is another day and we've had a long weekend here so I'm back to work in the morning so I'd better go get some sleep (it's after 1am here). Catch up with you all tomorrow.