Quote From: molly15My husband and I adopted a foster child last year. This young man is now 15 and has been in our home for 3 years. Two years as a foster child. He is ADHD, ODD . His mother gave him up for adoption and he gave her 2 trys to get her act together to be his mom but she choose drugs instead. Our son was in the foster system and movied 7 times before he came to us. He has told us many times that he has lied all his life so why should he change now. How do we help this young man to understand that has long as he lies about everthing we will always have trouble trusting him.
I give you a pat on the back and applaud you for adopting an older child!!!! I grew up with foster children in our home. It was the greatest experience ever. From a child's point of view, I had a big family. I knew of each of the children's back grounds (all were school age and adolescents) but neither of us received special treatment for being foster children or biological children. I have seen older children go thru "the system" b/c no one wants to adopt a child b/c they have issues, set in their ways, won't bond etc... Everyone wants the infants and babies that don't know their past.
Because my parents cared for older children from abandonment, neglect, abuse, drugs etc... I see the hard road that lies ahead with the state -especially siblings that want to stay together. I would love to adopt an older child. Teach them to trust and love. They have a new beginning. You are willing to protect them and a permanent home and family.
I tip my hat to you for embracing an adolescent.
