Quote From: juballlAllowing abuse is never the answer. If your daughter that is having marital problems, knowing she has no other place to go, can't control herself long enough while staying at your house, no wonder she is having problems in her marriage.
The one that is married, has had her chance, and she blew it. The daughter that was struck, was struck in the safety of her own home. You need to get the abusive daughter out of your house, and out of harms way of your daughter that still resides in your home, even if that means living in her car. I am sure there are shelters somewhere in the area, and if she stayed a few nights in one of those, it may wake her up enough to calm her butt down, and act like a human being. There is NEVER a valid reason for violence, unless it is protecting your life, your families life, or your "castle. I don't think any of those apply in your case.
Your daughter has committed battery on her sister. This is not just sibling squabble at this point. If she is mature enough to assume the roll of spouse, she should be mature enough to keep her hands to herself. Do you really need the extra stress? I hope this helps
I know I did the right thing. She is gone now. I knew I could not ignore this, bury my head in the sand, retreat to my room & cry, or try to fix it!!!!!!!!! I tried for more than 20 years to fix her father with no success!!! I am not about to try to fix someone else! Separating the 2 was the first priority. I wanted my younger daughter to feel safe in her own home again. She deserves at least that much! A has picked on S since they were children - always threatening to hit her if she didn't do what she wanted. They are not children any longer! A is old enough to know better! You're right, she blew it! She had a wonderful chance to get back on her feet again here in her childhood home. Had me snowed into believing that she herself was abused & suicidal. Sad that she used my own past against me!!! She knows that I feel used by her - I told her several times that I felt she "played" me to get here. She was supposed to have a job BEFORE she moved in here but she didn't - lead me to believe she was at the end of her rope so I would let her come jobless! Borrowed the money for the 3 months she lived here for "board" from friends. Played games on the computer all day instead of properly taking care of the 3 year old OR looking for a job!!!
I also tried to teach her to keep her hands to herself since she could talk!!!!!!!! At 22, it's obvious that I didn't succeed!!
I also think that her telling me she would have to live in her car was just another play for sympathy!
I'm a survivor & still trying to get my life back on track - NO - I don't need the added stress & drama!!! Had enough of that to last a lifetime!!! Doing well otherwise.
Thanks for your reply!!! God Bless - LS >^.^<
