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November 1, 2005, 4:32 pm PST
11/01 The Stepford Family
Quote From: onthefarm--My morning went like this from the husband: "Well, hell, you let me sleep too late." Then that was followed with, "well, I guess I won't wear my good sweatshirt--it's still dirty--guess I'll have to wear this one." "Who left the toilet paper roll empty? Damn I have to do everything that gets done!" From the grown son: "Why'd you wait so long to wake me up? Is dad still in the shower? When is he goin to learn to take a shower that takes less than 30 minutes?" From husband, "Did you pick up my medicine yesterday? Well, it's a good thing. That was my last pill."" What am I gonna have for breakfast?...Same old thing, sure would be nice to have something hot for a change." At noon, with son: "Can you type that letter over and get it in the mail this afternoon? Thanks." "How long you gonna leave those clothes in the washer, anyway? They were there this morning." "Why did you shut down the computer like that. Don't you know how much easier it will be if you just shut down each program separately? No wonder it's so slow.." (each of them have their own alarm clocks, the computer belongs to me, and both of them know how to do their own laundry and find or fix their own breakfast, just as I do before I leave for work. Every morning is such a barrage of put-downs and gripes that I've learned to try to get out the door before either is fully awake just to avoid all their negativity. I choose to eat my yogurt at my desk at work and get my coffee there as well. In the evenings, if I'm watching TV and husband walks in, he'll likely say, "What the crap is that?" and change the channel automatically...usually to sci-fi or auto shows that I hate, so I end up going to the bedroom alone --again--to avoid the blood & guts on TV. Are they controlling or just rude? I see no way out, with 2 of them and one of me, if I want to still live there. ..and I really don't want to leave. I'd like a little less negativity, that's all. My hubby is NOT handy at anything, but son is, so son often fixes a shelf or a door, etc. Husband does the grocery shopping with me in tow (I'm pretty useless), hubby and I much prefer eating out to eating in so as he puts it, "I'm a big boy now, I can feed myself!" when asked if he wants me to cook a night meal. My dining room sports speakers and a toolbox and 5 pairs of shoes, my dining table has a beading craft activity left out for my neighbors two little girls who like to come over to play, it's not unusual for my friends to come on back to my bedroom and lie on my unmade bed with me to talk because hubby is watching sci-fi again, and son washed all the towels we own and piled them on the couch with, "You're home sick today, maybe you can find time to fold them." Ours isn't the typical mom as the CEO house, maybe it's more like 3 adult roommates...and the house isn't ever really really clean unless I've planned a BIG EVENT...which usually involves a couple of my friends or family pitching in to the cleaning process!!!...but my friends know which cabinet holds the tea glasses, and they help themselves to the snacks in the pantry, and we can lounge on the floor or couch or bed and enjoy one another. When it passes cluttered and starts entering the filthy zone, I'm usually the one it bothers first, so I'm usually the one to attack it. I hire the yard done, because we all hate that chore...How clean is it? depends on the day....How controlling are we?....depends on our moods....after all, life changes (so why shouldn't our house and our surroundings. Most families have a "dream idea" of how it could be if it was "perfect"---but we wouldn't like living there if it was!
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