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August 5, 2005, 9:15 pm PDT
 Quote From: jellybelly i gave a child up fo adoption 26years ago.. this was the hardest thing i could ever do. the worst day of my life...... i gave her up so she could have a loving home. i was 16 when i found out i was expecting her i allready had one son that turned 1 the day i found out for sure i was pregant. i had trouble controling my anger. because i was so young .. this is something that i learned with age. so at this age i gave her up.... the people that raised her did a good job i guess.. she commented sucide at the age of 16... they did not let me know about it for 4 years. then only gave me little info on her . they did send me 1 picture and wrote me a letter telling me she wanted to find me and meet me when she turns 18. she did not make it . all the contacting was done thru the adoption agency. they sent me a paper that read like a funeral reading. with a drawing of her on the back of the paper.... this was all they sent ... they did not let me know where she was buried at . i needed to go to her grave and talk to her .. i know that his isnt something that is easy for me to hear . so thru help of this computer i went to work.. i had to find her. i had to tell her good buy and tell her i was so sorry. if i had of not did what i did she might be here.. from what i was told she was helping a friend by talking him out of killing himself then went a did it herself . the worst part he lived.... i did finialy find her . it was very emontally for me the 2 nd... hardest thing i had to do . it did take me years to do this but i did. and i dont feel any better now that i did.. the only thing that keeps me going is one day i will see her .... i hope it is in heaven...... this is the only thing i can cling to to keep me sane...... Hi,
I was adoped 11 years ago and I know that being adopted is hard on the kids. I was seven when I was adopted and I have not hear from my birthparent or my sisters. My brother was adopted with me by two wonderful people. |
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August 5, 2005, 9:28 pm PDT
Quote From: jellybelly i gave a child up fo adoption 26years ago.. this was the hardest thing i could ever do. the worst day of my life...... i gave her up so she could have a loving home. i was 16 when i found out i was expecting her i allready had one son that turned 1 the day i found out for sure i was pregant. i had trouble controling my anger. because i was so young .. this is something that i learned with age. so at this age i gave her up.... the people that raised her did a good job i guess.. she commented sucide at the age of 16... they did not let me know about it for 4 years. then only gave me little info on her . they did send me 1 picture and wrote me a letter telling me she wanted to find me and meet me when she turns 18. she did not make it . all the contacting was done thru the adoption agency. they sent me a paper that read like a funeral reading. with a drawing of her on the back of the paper.... this was all they sent ... they did not let me know where she was buried at . i needed to go to her grave and talk to her .. i know that his isnt something that is easy for me to hear . so thru help of this computer i went to work.. i had to find her. i had to tell her good buy and tell her i was so sorry. if i had of not did what i did she might be here.. from what i was told she was helping a friend by talking him out of killing himself then went a did it herself . the worst part he lived.... i did finialy find her . it was very emontally for me the 2 nd... hardest thing i had to do . it did take me years to do this but i did. and i dont feel any better now that i did.. the only thing that keeps me going is one day i will see her .... i hope it is in heaven...... this is the only thing i can cling to to keep me sane...... I AM SO SORRY THAT HAD TO BE SO HARD FOR YOU. SEE I WAS ADOPTED AT BIRTH AND DIDNT FIND OUT UNTIL I WAS ALMOST 15 I THINK THAT WAS THE HARDEST THING IN MY LIFE AND WHAT MAKES IS WORST IS THAT NOONE TOLD ME I STUMBLED ACROSS MY ORIGINAL BIRTH CERTIFICATE AND DID SOME RESEARCH AND FOUND OUT AND WHEN I TOLD MY PARENTS ALL THEY COULD THINK ABOUT WAS THEM YOU KNOW NOONE EVEN ASK ME HOW I FELT ABOUT IT BUT I GUESS I'M RAMBLING I JUST NEVER HAD ANYONE TO TALK TO ABOUT THIS AND IT JUST SEEMS LIKE YOUR ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THIS ISSUE SO MAYBE WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER. ALTHOUGH I WAS PRIVILAGED ENOUGH TO MEET MY BIRTH MOM AND HER OTHER DAUGHTER I KNOW THAT IT WAS FOR THE BEST THAT SHE DID IT SHE WAS 13 WHEN SHE HAD ME AND WAS BY NO MEANS READY TO BE A MOTHER I KNOW IT WAS BEST THINGS HAPPENED THE WAY THEY DID BUT IT STILL HURTS ME IT JUST FEELS LIKE A REJECTION I DIDNT KNOW THE DAUGHTER YOU GAVE UP FOR ADOPTION BUT I'M SURE SHE FELT THE SAME WAY AND I'M SURE SHE WANTED TO MEET YOU. EVEN IF JUST TO KNOW WHY YOU DID IT I THINK THAT WAS MY BIGGEST REASON FOR GETTING IN CONTACT WITH MY BIRTH MOM I HAVE SINCE NOt SEEN HER I JUST FEEL THAT SHES NOT THE KIND OF PERSON I WANT TO ASSOCIATE MYSELF WITH. IM SORRY YOU HAD TO GO THOUGH THAT AND WHATS WORSE IS THE FAMILY SHOULD HAVE CONTACTED YOU IMMEDIATLY WHEN IT HAPPENED YOU HAD EVERY RIGHT TO KNOW I KNOW YOUR DAUGHTER IS IN HEAVEN AND I'M SURE SHE WAS A WONDERFUL PERSON THAT JUST MADE SOME POOR CHOICES AND COULD FIND NO OTHER WAY OUT I HOPE THAT YOU MAKE SOME PEACE WITH IT AND REALIZE THAT THERES NO USE SAYING WHAT If WHAT WAS DONE YOU CANT TAKE BACK AND YOU CANT CHANGE THE OUTCOME BUT YOU CAN BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE AND MAKE IT THE BEST YOU CAN FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHER AND OTHER CHILDREN MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY KAYLEE PLEASE STAY IN CONTACT I THINK US TALKING COULD DEEPLY BENIFIT ONE ANOTHER MY E-MAIL ADRESS IS (kaylee_m_1985@yahoo.com) or you can just talk to me on here i would appreciate that so much.
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January 23, 2006, 7:00 am PST
Quote From: jellybelly i gave a child up fo adoption 26years ago.. this was the hardest thing i could ever do. the worst day of my life...... i gave her up so she could have a loving home. i was 16 when i found out i was expecting her i allready had one son that turned 1 the day i found out for sure i was pregant. i had trouble controling my anger. because i was so young .. this is something that i learned with age. so at this age i gave her up.... the people that raised her did a good job i guess.. she commented sucide at the age of 16... they did not let me know about it for 4 years. then only gave me little info on her . they did send me 1 picture and wrote me a letter telling me she wanted to find me and meet me when she turns 18. she did not make it . all the contacting was done thru the adoption agency. they sent me a paper that read like a funeral reading. with a drawing of her on the back of the paper.... this was all they sent ... they did not let me know where she was buried at . i needed to go to her grave and talk to her .. i know that his isnt something that is easy for me to hear . so thru help of this computer i went to work.. i had to find her. i had to tell her good buy and tell her i was so sorry. if i had of not did what i did she might be here.. from what i was told she was helping a friend by talking him out of killing himself then went a did it herself . the worst part he lived.... i did finialy find her . it was very emontally for me the 2 nd... hardest thing i had to do . it did take me years to do this but i did. and i dont feel any better now that i did.. the only thing that keeps me going is one day i will see her .... i hope it is in heaven...... this is the only thing i can cling to to keep me sane...... I'm so sorry you have had to go through this. I was adopted at birth. When I was 12 I tried to kill myself , I thought it would take the burden of me off of everyone. Well, I 'm still here 27 years later and have 2 boys that need me. You said that the boy whom your daughter helped from killing himself was the worst part; in my eyes, your daughter saved his life and that says alot about what a wonderful, caring person she was. Life is truly overwhelming and it's really hard to know when someone is feeling suicidal or how to help them even if they had a clue. She was able to help her friend . When I told my mom of my attempt at suicide, she got up threw up her hands and left the room , so some people can't handle this issue at all. You did a very selfless act by trying to do what was best for your baby girl when you put her up fot adoption. Her suicide isn't your fault! The way her adoptive parents handled things is obviously the only way they knew how. I hope that some day you can find peace in knowing she's with God. Take care. Oh yeah! My aunt used to call me Mellie pellie jelly belly, I thought that was a little ironic . lvanimules@netscape.com
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June 6, 2007, 11:05 am PDT
Quote From: jellybelly i gave a child up fo adoption 26years ago.. this was the hardest thing i could ever do. the worst day of my life...... i gave her up so she could have a loving home. i was 16 when i found out i was expecting her i allready had one son that turned 1 the day i found out for sure i was pregant. i had trouble controling my anger. because i was so young .. this is something that i learned with age. so at this age i gave her up.... the people that raised her did a good job i guess.. she commented sucide at the age of 16... they did not let me know about it for 4 years. then only gave me little info on her . they did send me 1 picture and wrote me a letter telling me she wanted to find me and meet me when she turns 18. she did not make it . all the contacting was done thru the adoption agency. they sent me a paper that read like a funeral reading. with a drawing of her on the back of the paper.... this was all they sent ... they did not let me know where she was buried at . i needed to go to her grave and talk to her .. i know that his isnt something that is easy for me to hear . so thru help of this computer i went to work.. i had to find her. i had to tell her good buy and tell her i was so sorry. if i had of not did what i did she might be here.. from what i was told she was helping a friend by talking him out of killing himself then went a did it herself . the worst part he lived.... i did finialy find her . it was very emontally for me the 2 nd... hardest thing i had to do . it did take me years to do this but i did. and i dont feel any better now that i did.. the only thing that keeps me going is one day i will see her .... i hope it is in heaven...... this is the only thing i can cling to to keep me sane...... Hello, I also placed a baby for adoption. I've remained in an open adoption situation, and have seen him fall apart over the years. He sees me fairly regularly, but is really beginning to scare me because he is going down hill fast now that he's hit puberty. His adoptive people have had a total of 6 kids. He was the first. And the last child of theirs is not between the two of them. However, they were married at the time. He bounces back and forth between parents who are now separated, or divorced and the adoptive mom lives with a live in boyfriend whom she found at AA. She's been strung out on prescription meds, all the while this boy has been allowed to make decisions for himself in many situations that should be monitored by parents. They call me when he gets in these low areas because they claim he listens to me. I don't know what to do for him at this point. I'm afraid he's on the brink of moving down hill fast. Sorry for your loss. I think adoption isn't always what some crack it up to be. |
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