Quote From: tiffluv8Hi Everyone!
I'm 20 (almost the big 21) and recently single. I guess I didn't scroll down enough to see this section. I've never been single since i was 13..i've bounced from one serious relationship of 5 years to another one of 3 years. Anyways, I've tried dating a little but I love being single so much. I like not having to answer to anyone, doing what I want, my phone not ringing and being asked where I am...all that. However, I feel like I'm leading guys on if I just want to go out and have a few beers and when they call me again I just tell them I'm not into having a relationship right now. Is this normal? Dating doesn't feel right for some reason....like the timing is off or something. Am I being a "player" by going out on the weekends but not wanting a relationship? I'm not wanting sex or anything like that. I'm independent and putting myself through school (almost done!). Is it a bad thing to want to focus no getting my degree and not having a serious relationship? I'm always upfront with these guys and tell them that I don't want one....but there's this one guy that keeps persisiting.....I guess I'm not sure what to do. Am I just being to cautious about getting hurt again and should I just jump into the relationship? Or should I go be a "college student" have a few beers and leave them behind?? Please help........
I’m a college student as well. I'm in my last year and I just went through a breakup. I can totally relate to you. I thought this guy was gonna be my husband but it didn't work out. I definitely think that the reason why you feel like the timing is off is because it probably is. Girl, take your time. You have your whole life ahead of you so do your thing. Finish school and get your life together, you're 20 years old. Enjoy being single. When I first broke up with my ex, I thought the world was over but now that I look back I know that I would not have been able to handle a relationship the way my life was going. I'm just focused on graduating. I do date as well, I have fun, you can't deprive yourself, but you need to let the fellas know where you stand and if they can't respect that than don’t waist your time. Tell this guy who keeps persisting that if he can't respect where you are in your life right now (a single college student) than there's no chance not even for a friendship. And now that I'm resolved and happy with where I am, I am able to be a true friend to my ex and to any guy without expecting something more or leading them on. I’m also able to be ok with other people being in relationships because I’m secure with myself.
