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 Hello:

Verbal abuse does much, much more long-term damage to children than any other type of abuse, so please don't say that you don't abuse your kids and then say that you yell mean, nasty things at them.

Do you know that THEY believe it when you say that they are bad, ugly, stupid, they BELIEVE you and they believe you forever or until they get massive amounts of therapy.

I do understand how frustrating parenting a PWS child and parenting any children are and I have yelled occasionally, but I have NEVER called my children names or told them that they were stupid because I KNOW first-hand what that feels like.

Even the "average" kid will push your buttons some of them constantly, BUT again, YOU are the grownup, YOU need to handle it differently.

To answer your question, to me the "typical PWS family" and I have met many over the last two years are sweet, kind, loving and do whatever they can to help their child with PWS, they are NOT PERFECT and I am sure that they yell occassionally, but they would never call their children names or beat them with a belt.  The "typical PWS family" struggles with the same issues you do, but handle without abuse.

I DO feel for you, after all, we are in the same boat, I will pray for you and your family.  I hope that you understand that I am saying that your PWS story is not typical because you are not handling it the way that it needs to be handled.

Thanks for writing and the very best of luck to you and your family.

Sincerely,

Joyce

Hi Nichelle, 

  I was glad to see that you did a post on here. I want you to know that I personally emailed Dr. Phil to ask him to get you some help professional with your life and children. Now on another note. I am raising a child with Mental Retardation and Cp.. I know what its takes to raise a special needs child. I also can understand your frustration. I was pretty good at the regular parenting stuff, but then here came the big bang of a diagnoses. For me it was very depressing knowing that my child would not be like others. I asked for parenting classes on how to raise a disabled child and also got some professional theraphy to cope until I could figure it all out. I give you a lot of credit for getting the help professionally, I only know that is a good step in the right direction. It is not easy raising children period and then we find out about our kids having disabilities. Do you have a good support system in your area with true friends and family to help out??? I would like to keep writing if your interested. 

Hi Nichelle, 

   I was able to see that you are from Michigan I just moved from their to Idaho. I want you to know their is a lot of services their for children with disablities. I also want you to know that my son who has cp and mental retardation. Is a joy to me and has taught me many life lessons. If I had it to do over again I wouldnt change a thing. If you need help with services in the Michigan area let me know. I will do my best to help you. I feel like not only are you struggling with your children, but might also be struggling with some of your own issues as well. So good luck in your theraphy and stick it out. It does work if you use what is recommended.