Replies to 'The Other Woman'

This is to kates mom, who does nothing but frustrate me to death. YOU, YOU, YOU, have ruined a family, and a marriage of two people who obviously loved one another and always will. YOU trespassed, YOU stole, and now you are adding even more by having a baby with HER husband? Don't let the church door hit you in the #@& on the way out!!

I agree with the others-you made a stupid mistake, he's a liar and a loser and not worth it, and ultimatums are probably not your best bet.

You are already aware that you made stupid mistake for getting involved with a married man. Now that you are in a very serious situation you need to be aware of some things. You say he is telling you his wife is evil and she is stalling the divorce. If he's telling you all these bad things about her you can be sure they are most likely not true AND he is most likely telling her lies about you. I'm guessing he tells her you're evil and threatening him so he can't leave you but he really loves her and wants to be with her, not you. The secrecy pretty much should spell that out for you. I'm sure you already knew that but maybe didn't want to believe it. He's not going to marry you. If he respected marriage he would have tried to work things out with his wife before going the divorce route and he would have waited until the divorce was finalized before he started dating anyone. He manipulated you until he had the best of both worlds-a wife and a mistress. No respectable man does that. Despite the fact that you made a stupid mistake you should still have enough respect for yourself and your child to ditch this guy. Let him be a part of his child's life if he wants to be but to be on the safe side go to your local Dept. of Social Services. They will help you set up a child support agreement/court order and guide you towards many services that can help you. Food Stamps, Medical Care for you and the baby, and counseling are only some of the services they provide. They can help you in soooooooooooooo many ways! There is even a program for free daycare that you can use so that you can go to school or get a job. And college can be paid for with grants if you use FAFSA. Be the best mom you can be and keep pushing yourself to go farther. You made a mistake but you still have the rest of your life. Be a good role model for your daughter so that she won't end up in the same situation. You CAN make a good life for yourself and your daughter! You don't need this loser!