Quote From: drsindelDear Nichelle,
I posted a message but just learned that on top of everything else, you are also a single mom. I just have to empathize with you, as I too am a single mother. I have many frustrations, but none require the kind of strength you must find to care for your children. I understand what it is like to be "the only one" your child (ren) depend on. I was 35 when I became a mom for the first time--alone. The biological father was just not interested in being a dad. He has never even called to see if it was a boy or a girl. My family is very dysfunctional and I chose to keep our distance. So we are very much without any support other than a few (3) friends that help when they can. It is very lonely, but it is also very peaceful. Try to appreciate the time you have to make all the decisions for the benefit of your children. Remember that your number one job as a mom is to Protect your children--even if it is at times from your own frustrations. There have been times I have gone into the bathroom after my daughter is in bed for the evening, and just sat and cried. It has helped me to know that I am a very strong person, and I am her mom and her dad, and God wanted me to have her and learn these important lessons. I will never allow my own fears to impact my daughters well being. It is hard, and she doesn't even have any health problems so far. So I can't fully understand what you are going through. I did think it was important to let you know though that you are not alone.
Sincerely,
Danielle
I too was a single mother and yes it was hard but it still should have taken you six years and a national television show to reach out and get the help her daughter needed...I don't disagree that children are frustrating and I am sure that is magnified exponentially in your daughter because of her condition but you should have reached out much sooner and learned how to deal with her needs and you could have saved yourself from getting to the point of yelling, screaming and hitting her...I have three children and I have learned to take a time out and deal with it when I am calm...I also know enough to recognize when I need help and take measures to get that help...even if it means calling someone and asking them if they can come give me a hand...do you not have any family you can call and if not a friend or someone from a support group or anyone...I just think you have to quit being a vicitim acknowledge your daughter has issues that you need help with and get the proper help and counseling and deal with it appropriately...I don't mean to be rude but you have to want to help yourself before others can help you...I am sure you don't want to lose you child becasue you were too hard headed to step up to the plate and be the mother she needs you to be.
