Quote From: mrs_affairYou know, you guys give the best advise!! I am so happy I found this message board. It seems to really help writing all this down. Its like therepy for me. The only reason I can see for me doing this is I must have gotten married too young. I know that is no excuse for my behavior, but I've been married 19 years and I'm only 36! We do have 4 wonderful kids (ages12 thru 4) , and they would hate me if I screwed up my family. That is one thing I wouldn't be able to forgive myself for. I don't think I would ever stop this affair if it was up to me, but you both are right about one thing, I should do it for my family. My husband (who is the greatest guy) and my kids don't deserve for me to do this. I've been in denial about what would happen is we ever got caught. And the OM is married with 2 kids also. So that is two families that would be torn apart. So, I've decided not to take his calls, and not to call him. I have to cut off all contact and hopefully in time, I will be able to get over him. Thank you for all your wonderful advise and I will keep you posted on my progress!
I used to come to these boards before they changed them to this format. I just can't get used to the new stuff so I don't come here very often. What I want to say to you is this: Until you dig deep down inside yourself, and actually learn what is causing that emptiness or that "hole" inside of yourself, you're never going to be completely happy. This affair you are having is a temporary fix.
I suggest personal counseling. It helped me tremendously. I am finally a "whole' person. The emptiness is gone. My marriage is better then it ever was; we are not only best friends but also passionate lovers...with each other. I didn't get this way on my own and it didn't happen overnight. My affair took place almost 7 years ago. We both ended it and never spoke to each other again. I told my husband and it devastated him. We worked hard to get beyond it. Neither of us are the same people we were back then. We are very fortunate that it turned out the way it did. I count my blessings ever single day and NEVER will I take my marriage for granted again.
Mrs. Affair, you are living on borrowed time. Your life cannot stay the way it is. Something drastic is going to happen and it's not going to be good. End it COMPLETELY with the OM now, for everyone's sake.
