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November 4, 2005, 6:25 pm PST

11/03 Extreme Food Obsessions

Quote From: alwyscryng

Anorexia is a disorder...a disease, not something that someone just decides to have. Sure, it can start with a person wanting to lose weight, but it doesn't progress to someone being that thin without other issues. I do not think Kathy is selfish- what a terrible thing to say. If I were you, I would start focusing on how to help your aunt or other relatives instead of focusing on the aggravation she is causing you; to me, that is selfish. I mean, just how is Kathy or your aunt selfish? Do you think your aunt is selfish because she wants attention? SHE NEEDS ATTENTION! When I weighed 70 pounds it was because I was so upset with myself. And, do you know what keeps/kept me going, instead of killing myself flat out? God. My faith in God, that He had a plan for me, and Jesus, that His dying really did atone for my sins. What I tend to doubt, though, is that I really am sorry for being human and sinning. Everyone has trials, no one is perfect, and anorexia is a mental disorder. Think about what your flaws are, then think about having a mental disorder that made these flaws harder to overcome....would you be selfish for having a harder time dealing with your problems and having them show physically than someone else whose problems were masked? Honestly, I feel that you may need to stop harboring such ill wishes toward you aunt. Furthermore, why do you call her a horrible Christian? Making presumptions towards others' relationship with God certainly is not the best thing to do. Please, I am not trying to be rude, but you seem to very angry, and it is not helping you or her.

I am angry...have every right to be!!! We have tried to help her...she is not interested...doesn't think there is anything wrong with her ribs sticking out...being able to feel every bump on her spine...etc.

The last time I checked suicide was a sin! She does not act in a christian manner...is nasty to everyone and frankly I can't believe that God would be ok with the way she treats herself or her family. I don't want to know a God that would approve of her behavior.

There is nothing left but anger. My family has tried to help her but instead of being grateful for the care and concern she just gets more mean and nasty. As you should know, you can't help someone who doesn't want it...won't admit there is a problem. She is going blind and has known about the possibility of this happening for years and has refused to get any treatment...if she had done the things her eye doctor recomended she wouldn't have the severity of problem she has today. She has also tested positive for cancerous cells...she would rather be in denial about that too...She will die sooner rather then later because of her own actions. To me that is suicide...to do nothing to save yourself and to do everything in your power to aid in your ultimate demise is a sin...to me it is murder...only she is killing herself.

I don't harbor ill wishes towards her...I don't wish her dead...I would love to see her get help and start treating people the way they deserve to be treated...But it is not going to happen not ever. As far as dealing with mental health issues...I do already deal with my own. I had problems and got help and continue to fight my own inner demons...it would have been easy for me to slide into the kind of depression that you don't come out of but I got help. It is possible to get treatment for all mental health issues. If you found the strength to admit your problem with food and get help then you know that you have to acknowledge the problem and do the work necessary to get better.