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November 4, 2005, 1:55 pm PST
I agree with you
Quote From: pistol05This mother, by going on national T.V. and admitting that she is overwhelmed to the point of abusing her child, is making a step in the right direction. It's the mother that can't admit she is out out of control and hides the fact that is a real danger to her children. This mother wants help and is willing to receive it. Good for her. She is to be commended for her honesty.
You are correct that violence from one's parent has a life-long lasting affect. It has for me.
My mother never admitted she was an abusive parent and denies to this day that she ever hit me with a belt, extension cord, hair brushes, etc., or was so destructively verbally abusive, and I wasn't mentally handicapped and a challenge like this woman's daughter is, although no excuse justifies taking out your frustrations on a child. I so hated my upbringing that I do not use corporal punishment with my child nor do I call him names. Part of being a parent and an adult is making choices. I have made a choice not to react in anger and strike another. I will admit that it is hard to do at times, but ultimately I am the one that is in control of my emotions. I think this mother is on the right track just by admitting she has a problem, and I wish her well in getting help. I totally see what you are saying and agree 150% that this woman needs HELP. However, if she does not follow thru with the help Dr. Phil has offered or slips up. Then she needs to lose this gift that God has given her. I do know full well the frustrations, anger, and guilt that come from a child with special needs. For 15 years instead of taking them out on my son I have used that energy to help him, and made sure that I had a VERY VERY good support system around me. Now I am happy to say that he is not "normal" but he is in 80% mainstreamed classes!!! Which for him is a big deal. It has been a long bumpy road but after while you get use to the bumps and see them coming and just deal with them. Again I hope and Pray that this child will be OK and her Mom will get the help she so desperately needs. I will also say a prayer for you I too know what it is like to grow up with an abusive, non connected mother. I recently went back to school at the age of 34.Instead of congratulations or something supportive she said and I quote "Why can't you find a nice guy to take care of you and the kids." She was very physically abusive growing up and I guess that is why I have zero tolerance for abuse. Again I wish you and all well.
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