Quote From: qqqhhhThat is SO FAR beyond acceptable -- I am speechless.
So are you saying that you asked her to leave the home? Or has she moved out?
I would NOT just let go of this situation.
I'd be having a REALLY serious talk with your abusive daughter. I would make her understand that what she did is ASSAULT and BATTERY and she COULD go to JAIL! Heck maybe she ought to go to JAIL! I think the best thing for her may be natural consequences. It may be a great lesson for HER to live in her car. I might even go so far as to say the I would be willing to keep her son while she lives in the car if she can't be a civil, decent human being. I don't care how many emotional problems she has -- wrong is wrong.
Don't blame your self for HER actions. You and hubby did teach your kids to be victims/abusers, BUT they are ADULTS now and they know right from wrong.
If I were your grandsons' Dad, I wouldn't take her back either and her son may be better of with his Dad while his Mom is homeless. It's not like she can't come visit her son.
Sheesh -- unbelievable.
Try not to let the guilt eat away at you. You did better when you knew better. Your eldest is going to have some tough lessons to learn -- better that it happen now with family than with some stranger who could cause ALOT MORE harm to her or your grandchild.
I know it's tough. Q
I'm feeling lots better now!!! My younger daughter - S - just got back from the dentist & he was able to pull the teeth part way back to their original position. Good news - no fractures, the teeth WOULD HAVE been knocked out but the braces stopped that from happening. Bad news - we need to watch these teeth for the rest of her life - could need root canal on 3 of the teeth someday, the roots could begin to desolve!, or her teeth could turn black & need to be pulled. BUT these things may never happen. It's in God's hands now how well her body can heal. She is young & healthy - the trauma could have been worse.
A has moved out. I told her that she needed to leave by the end of the day. She actually went back to the marital house "temporarily". The soon-to-be-X seems to be on HER side in this. I guess she has manipulated the situation to her advantage once again! She is a master at that! Little G is HOME!!!!!!! I keep telling myself that it's better for him that he's at his own house. My house is a nice place to visit but it was never his home. I got the key to the house back too so there will be no surprise visits.
No charges were filed - not S's style (revenge). I DID tell A that things could have been SO much worse & that she could have been arrested! Nothing like a police record for violence to dampen the chances of custody!!!!!!!!!! She's SO lucky!
A is "angry"!!!!!!!!!!! Unbelieveable! SHE is angry! Just like the father - always placing blame on others!!! It was S's fault - she was asking for it for months!!!!!!!!! Sound familiar anyone??!!!
Bottom line - she is gone from my home now & S & I have peace once again. Hard when it's your own child that is becoming the new abuser in the family!!!!!! INCREDIBALLY HARD! She makes her own bed - just like her father did! Hope she heals before she's 57 like her father! And even HE still doesn't "get it"!!!
I know I did the right thing. Thanks for all your support!!! God Bless - LS >^.^<
