Replies to '11/04 A Shopping Intervention'

Quote From: detkna1

 Hi,

I am 29 years old.  I have been married to a wonderful man for 3 years now.  I LOVE to spend money, regardless of who brings it in.  My husband works his rear end off, tries to work all the over time he can so we can at least pay our bills.  We are middle to lower class house hold.  I will go shopping but my shopping is wal-mart, or other stores ( I feel like we can afford) when actually, we can't afford to go shopping when our next bill is coming due in just a couple of weeks.  My three children reside with there father in Oklahoma, I live in Alabama, and when my husband tells me because of my spending, I might not get to go and see my kids that I haven't gotten to see in several months.  So, my husband finally had enough and took over the finances, and controls the money now.  I don't touch it, unless I talk to him first about it.  I feel better because now I don't have to worry about all the overdrafts that end up hitting our checking account.  I am ashamed of myself in alot of ways, I can image how Bridget must feel.  It is hard work to do the right thang.  Bridget can make it through this with her husband and children.  Her husband, the hard part for him is giving her his time, since like my husband, feels like they have to work extra hard, just to make the ends meet.  Yes, me and my husband has had to file bankrupcy just recently, we have also in the last three months, browed $5000.00 to get caught up on our house payment that was in forcloser.  Now, I see what my spending has done, and it is very hard to control that urge to go and spend (which is not a problem due to husband taking control).  It is hard, but it is something that needs to be done.  I have a problem with trust with him, and feel like it is just a way to control me.  But it is something again, that needs to be done.   Sorry I ramble.  I believe Bridget and her family will make it through, it will be a hard road, but all things can be done when you put your heart and soul into it.    Thanks for listening,

Detra, AL