Quote From: qqqhhhI am sorry.
Calling his daughter names is verbal abuse. Neither you nor any of your children need that.
I can understand completely why your daughter feels like he hates her. He treats her just like he treats you. Personally, he lack of respect toward you and her leads me to believe that he has little respect for women as a whole -- but this is an assumption.
Just because hubby is in denial about his own behavior doesn't mean you need to be. If he can not be civil to EVERYONE ESPECIALLY THE KIDS until the frickin' 25th, then HE needs to leave.
I'm glad you called the therapist. I'm glad you called your attorney.
If you feel things are escalating, let EVERYONE know and take precautions. Any prudent parent would do that.
Hang in there hon. Q
Do NOT hesitate to stand up for your children if you feel they are being abused.
I can't tell you the number of times I didn't do this and wish I had. Eventually, when I got strong enough, I got better and better and standing up for my kids and as a result I also got better at standing up for me.
I got myself to the point that I REFUSED to let my own children be BULLIED by their Dad.
It is very normal for children to try and manipulate their environments/situations. It is one way they learn what the limits are. In light of the stressful situation THEIR DAD has put them in by remaining in the home while divorce proceedings are taking place, ANY child is going to be on the emotional side regardless of whether it's cold french fries or someone simply looking at the the wrong way.
Your child was NOT out of line for crying -- screaming maybe -- but given what ya'll have been going through for the last 12 years, I would even expect that.
So you know.... very often, people who label others' behavior are really expressing what THEY DO themselves.
When your hubby is telling you and your daughter that you are playing mindgames, that is called PROJECTION and it's more likely that DAD is the one playing mindgames not you guys, okay?
Ask YOUR counselor to explain what that is and what you can do about it.
Q
