Quote From: judyblue22Although Bridgette having a job is certainly not the panacea to the issues that Micheal and Bridgitte have, but it is an essential step to start her on the road to growing up! There is a definate parent/child relationship there and she is rebelling in spades. She needs to move forward into being an adult.
I also believe that if she earned some of the money needed to pay back what she has stolen from her family, she might gain some self esteem.
Dr. Phil just said the answer of her getting a job was wrong because he knows that wouldn't fix her problem. Her main problem is that hef husband isn't home with her and she want him home (which of course he can't do because he has to pay her bills). There's more to her spending. Like people drink or do drugs to forget things that hurt or bother them, she shops because it makes her happy at the time. Later she regrets it but she's so far in the hole with this, she doesn't know where to go. Believe me, I'm not sticking up for this woman at all, but I understand what Dr. Phil was saying. I know he would think it would be good for her to get a job, but he didn't say that because he knows that there's more to it than that. Biggest thing is they need to communicate. The only way it sounds like they communicate at this point is when he argues with her over what she bought. She is getting his attention at that moment. It's not positive attention, but he makes the time at that moment to argue with her. He's not too tired to fight about it, he makes the time then. She just needs to get his attention in a different way.
Personally, I don't think they look like they love eachother at all, but we don't really know because we're not there 24/7. If she could do what Dr. Phil says and return all of that crap, it would help them tremendously... then learn to make time for each other, but not fighting. Find time to watch tv together or cook a meal together. That's a small beginning that could make such a difference with them. It has to start somewhere....
