Quote From: ebyarbrougI live with a both Crohn's disease and arthrithis. My Crohn's showed up when I was 29 and the arthrithis showed up when I was 33. I lost our only son at birth and was unable to have more children. I take medicine everyday for my chronic illnesses and some days I require pain killers as well. Do I get depressed? You bet I do, right about this time every year, as the anniversary of our son's death is approaching. How to I cope? Well I am lucky that I have a great husband who puts up with me and also happens to love me to pieces. Numbing the pain doesn't make it go away. Everyone was dealt a hand in life and yes some of us with dealt really bad hands. But play the hand you were dealt the best you can. I fight through the bad days, to get to the good days. Find something you like to do OTHER than shopping. My husband and I like to go fishing and go to minor league hockey games. We also enjoy cooking together. My husband is my rock and I thank God for him on a daily basis. Remember no one else can MAKE you happy. You have to find some happiness and make the best of it. If this is overly harsh, I do apologize.
I am grateful for your honesty. You are a strong person. My sister was too. She fought her cancer until her last breath. The pain is too much for me. At times, I feel that I cannot live without her. She was everything that I am not. This time of year, all the holidays, is very difficult for me without her to share the joy that everyone else is feeling, she loved the holidays. I feel for her daughters. I am dealing with the depression by talking to a therapist. At times, I feel they just sit there and listen, and think, what can they do for me? I have to do it myself. And, you know what? It is not that easy. Sorry, I need to vent tonight. At times, I need something or someone to give me a push. To get me motivated, to learn to live without her, without so much guilt, pain and sadness. Has anyone every used a life coach? Would that be something to try? Someone to coach me back to living without a loved one and to be somewhat able to cope without walking around in a daze and comforting myself with shopping and food to numb the pain. Now it is affecting my health and wellbeing. Thanks for listening... p.s. I admire people like you and my sister who have/had been blessed with strength and courage to play the hand you were dealt. God Bless
