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Quote From: jettav

I honestly don't know what to say but he does sound a lot like my hubby. MY hubby is a very loving and compassionate person and he is a perfectionist and wants every one to be happy but in the process of trying to make every one happy, there is always goingt o be some one offended or not so happy, he has to have time to think and to process the information but doesn't realize the affects it has on others. Believe me, though it it is a whole different issue, my husband and I just recently had some problems because of his way of thinking and though it only lasted about a week, it seemed like eternity to me, I felt as if he was putting others way before me, my thoughts and feelings but in all reality, he was just trying to figure out how to make every one involved happy. I am firm believer that family, meaning husband and wife should come before others for the most part, I do believe thatin your case, he needs to be talking to his parents to stay out of this but at the same time, he is probably feeling pulled, like a tug of war game, and he isn't able to think straight. Men and women definetly think differently as our brains are wired different. There really isn't anything you can do, for you cannot change him for thet is something that only he can do, but you can change your self, maybe just try going the extra mile and be a little more nice to the family, show your love and respect for your husband even in ways that others will see how much you love your husabnd and that you are not after his material stuff, just his love and their acceptance as well. Make it as peaceful and easy as youpossibly can for your husband for I can almost bet that he is on your side, he just doesn't know how or when to communicate it, I know it is easier said then done but by you doing your part in your marriage and doing your part in keeping the peacethen maybe in time every one will come around but whatever the case, in the process of all this, do not do something that you are not comfortable with, don't let any one make you feel guilty over something that you are in totally in disagreement with, follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you and your husband.