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November 25, 2005, 10:59 am PST
 Quote From: mammy103 As far as children services doing their job in helping children in need.....here's my story. I had a relative that had 1 child and 2 stepchildren. These parents were reported to children services (cs) in Indiana on an average of 3 times a week for 2 yrs. The grandmother and myself made a list of all abuses going on in the home, which was 3 pages long. CS said there was no way this could be true. The children confirmed the abuses, but cs catered to the parents. A partial list was as follows: padlock on refrigerator, no diapers but paper on floor along side of the dog, if bedwetting u don't bathe & wear the underclothes for a week, stay in their room til 5pm with no toys or tv just bed with no sheets and no food as parents used drugs & slept all day, made to sell drugs, called "worthless" "bastard" etc. This is just a small sample. The oldest boy finally refused to go home at age 16 and moved in with his grandmother. Before he left, his mother had found out that her husband had an affair and said the marriage was over. She went back to the house to get her things and her husband asked her to come back. The boy told her "it's me or him, mom." She chose her husband. He could never get over the abuse and rejection from his mother. At age 20, he hung himself. A few yrs later the oldest girl left home and the youngest became a ward of the state of California. California CS was amazed, but found out that all the allegations for all the yrs were true. Dr. Phil, I think you're a great inspiration to everyone, but if you think CS does their job in protecting children, you better think again. Mammy103 I can also testify to this, being an adult survivor of child abuse. I was in an out of the fostercare system, hospitals, group homes, ect my whole entire life, but not because of anything my parents did. At least according to the CS. I was placed for being out of control. I hardley ever talked, didnt do drugs, swear, Hid at the first chance i got, didnt break things, but i was *out of control* I am still trying to figure that one out. I was beaten daily, i was told i was going to be killed, was spit on, called every name i can think of, told i was not their child, and was accused of being a satan worshiper, went to school in pee soaked clothes, and was made to wash the sheets in scalding hot water. I could go on and on about the things that i endured, these are just a few of the minor things. I was also molested. I was punished for it instead of the person that did it. I have had every thing taken away from me except for one thing. They can not take my mind away. I am a survivor, nothing will change that. CS does not do their job. I had physical marks on me that were dismised and ignored. I was sent away to various places and then at 18 expected to function in the real world. I had skills, but at the same time i didnt. I chose to do something with my life though. True, i may not have a highschool diploma, or ged, but that doesnt mean I cant make a difference. I now run my own community on msn to tell my story.
I saw a comment by someone asking what they could do to help. Comming from an adult survivor that has been through the system, Tell a kid that you love them, or just simply be nice to them. I cant express how much the little things meant to me. Things like getting a hug, being tucked in at night, or just sitting and talking. Let them know that they are special and important. Color a picture with them. Go to a game that they are playing in or another activity, most importantly, just show an interest in them. |
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