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Hi! I am new at this so i hope i get things right.

My husband and I have been married for 4 years and after him "hanging" out all night for the past two summers, I just don't know if I can handle it any more. He used to stay out all night (even weeknights) last summer and the summer before ('03 & '04) Come to find out he was hanging out alright, with another woman! Who is also married w/ kids and lived in CO. where her husband was stationed, but returned home (GA) with her kids, no husband, each summer. An old "one nighter" to my husband. Summer '03 I was pregnant and trapped at home because he had my vehicle and would take the key to his truck with him (gee wonder why?) Night after night he would leave me alone no ride, no food in the house. I did a little investigating and found out why and even found out that her birthday was the day before I had our son and he gave her a check for $150. Now, I know that two wrongs don't make a right, I happened to run into an old friend of mine (so weird) and we exchanged numbers. WE talked everyday day about everything and he saved me from doing something so drastic. He is also married with kids. When my husband found out, he nutted up of course. He planned a trip with his "friend" to go to Cancun and my husband didn't cover his trail too well and I found out. He didn't go, but the fact is that he still planned a trip with another woman.

Last summer, he did the same crap to me -out all night, not calling, not answering his phone. The difference is that I had my car, I ended up not cooking for him anymore and quit having sex with him too. (He says I was wrong for that). I ended up telling him that we need to get help or I was out. He agreed to counseling and we went. The counselor ultimately told me I need to leave him and force him to stand on his own and stop being his crutch. My husband changed after she went back to CO. her husband was eventuallly stationed in Guam and she hasn't returned to Ga. this summer. This summer, he hasn't been out everynight, but there have been a few weekends when he would go out and not return home until the following morning.

What has me upset now, is this: we both attend college at night and while I was in the school break room waiting for my class to start, he went on break with his class. He didn't see me and I snuck up on him while he was on thephone. I could hear enough that it was a girl he was talking too. He acted kind of "shady" towards me, and I angrily told him where I had parked the car and walked away. The old me would argue later about it, but this time, I didn't say a word. I acted as if it didn't bother me. I don't care if he talks to another woman on the phone, but why hide it?Is there another womanin his life? He has been acting kind of weird lately, but I just don't care anymore.

I know dr. phil says turn over every stone before divorce, but I am slowly running out of stones.