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Quote From: llynn66

If you have the opportunity to talk to her and find out her side of the story, maybe you should. I wish i would've done that right away after my husband told me about his "thing". Instead, here i am almost 3 years later still procrastinating about it. My husband told me basically what happened right away but did'nt tell me who he broke my heart with for 8 months after. So by the time he did tell me that detail i was even more embarrassed and humiliated at the idea of her knowing that i'd been in the dark about her identity for that long.  He swore up and down, this and that, worst mistake he ever made, loves me, said he told her right after it happened it was a mistake and nothing ever happened again. I tend to believe that nothing else happened after the night he threw us away because he put alot of effort into repairing the damage. But since he was capable of doing that to us, i think i'm always going to feel like it could happen again. I always wonder what her version of it is, and i may still need to find out. It's not that he tries to make himself blameless but....I don't know, and i would like to, mostly because i feel like a big fool and it still hurts. I quit asking my questions after he told me who it was, then it seemed like we started being careful to avoid the subject. Now here i am 3 years later wishing i'd done things differently. I guess you never know how you're going to react when someone you love and trust with your heart hurts you so bad. Keep asking questions, you're entitled to the answers, it's only been 6 months for you. If you feel up to confronting her do it. It might give you some of your strength back. Say a little prayer.