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November 10, 2005, 3:00 pm PST

11/10 Infidelity Aftermath

Quote From: teah5961

Today when I watch the show it really scared me. My daughter is a freshmen at NC State, and her boyfriend is at ECU. She has found out about 6 different girls he cheated with and he admitted it. This was before college started. She broke up with him at first, but he keeps calling until she caves in. He tells her he will never do it again, but he was just like the guy on the show so full of it. I can't say anything to her without making her upset. She beautiful and Smart ,I'm afraid he will do to her what has been done to the lady today- blinded her. What do I do? How can I help my daughter snap out of this deception.

  

Tell Her You Love Her. 

Tell Her You Will Always Be Here For Her. 

Let Her Know That She Can Always Depend On You And Your Belief In Her. 

  

Explain to her that you are tired of listening to an abuse that she is unwilling to change. Tell her not to tell you about the next girl he cheats on her with. Let her know that it is unresolvable, because she is the only one who can change the situation. However, you are tired of hearing about that which she is unable or unwilling to change. Don't forget to remind her that you are there for her and you love her unconditionally. 

  

Every time she wants to discuss his cheating tell her firmly that as long as she is incapable of taking back her power, her self-respect, and her dignity this is an experience you are willing to do without. It is not your road to travel, it is hers until she realizes that she deserves more than better, because she is a princess and should be protected from harm and hurt. 

  

Change the subject after giving her a hug and telling her you care and love her. 

  

This is going to drive her crazy and consume her, because you are not willing to listen to her self-abuse and acceptance of some idiot emotionally using and abusing her. 

  

When she is ready to leave him for good, validate her decision by letting her know that you are proud of her then go out and celebrate with her. 

  

Don't bitch, don't complain, don't enable, don't listen, JUST LOVE HER AND BE THERE FOR HER. 

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 


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