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Quote From: gladmommy

My husband of 9 years cheated on me while I was pregnant with our 3rd child. The affair started in my 8th month. I knew something was going on and he kept calling me a psycho. 5 minutes after our child was born he made an excuse about having to get home and let the dog out. He left and I started bleeding out. I almost lost my life that night, while he was living it up with the office bimbo in my bed. 3 weeks after I got home we got into an arguement. He claimed he didn't love me and he didn't want to live at home anymore. He packed up and left me with 3 kids,bills,and really no excuse as to why he didn't love me. I found out by going through some cell phone bills that this particular number kept popping up at crazy times. I called it and a woman answered. My phone number is one digit off of my husbands. When she answered the phone she said, Hey baby I've been waiting for your call. Surprise surprise. I then found hotel reciepts with her liscene plate number registered but my husbands name attached to it. My husband admitted to the affair that night. Through lots of questions and a little detective work I found out her name and address. I not only confronted her but I also confronted her husband! I showed him all of my proof. Low and behold a couple of days later the affair stopped. I started my life over. I re-discovered myself and realized just how strong of a woman I really was and really wanted to become. 3 months after everything happened my husband begged me to take him back. Things between us have definately changed, my trust with him is not there at all. He has taken a huge roll in parenting and marriage which was never there before. I have been able to grow as an independant person but he also values me as a partner. Do I think I was crazy for taking him back? Sometimes. Do I think he'll cheat again? Sometimes. Am I a better person after all of this? Definately! I have no fear in ever being by myself again. I have no fear in taking control and living my life for me and my kids. I have no fear in confronting others. I can stand up for myself, love myself, and show my kids just what it takes to make it in this world. I don't need him in my life to live, his love and presence in my life is just a bonus. If it disappears again...I will go on this time without the hurt and pain. I am who I want to be now. He sees that and loves me for it. As for the other woman, we moved 4 hours away from her. Her husband has been told by other men that she is still sleeping around on him. She's very unhappy in her life and marriage. He refuses to let her go. All I can say is too bad for her. I guess we get what we give!