Replies to '03/13 Infidelity Aftermath'

it is going to be ok. i am sure that your husband loves you and he knows that you are sorry. give him time to cope. it hurts their ego. i know this because back in december after 5 months of marriage i cheated on my husband with the man i left him for. my 4 year olds dad. i did not tell him, i hid it. until September i hid it. he found out, through a friend what i had done. they left out how sorry i was and how it was a one time HUGE mistake. Marc left me. we were apart for a month. it felt like an eternity!! but what worked was when i left him alone. i stopped calling begging him back and stopped talking it to death, and he came back. he told me life was miserable without me and that he knew that i loved him and just had a moment of weakness. things are getting better. dont beat yourself up and worry forever about what you could do differently. in my situation, i do NOT regret what happened. my husband had been unfaithful while we were dating and i caught him. i had unresolved feelings for aprils dad and i needed closure. it did nothing but help us. i do not take pride in what i did, but i feel that it had to happen for me to be where i am and to truely love and apreciate my husband and not feel like i had been mistreated. we have come so far in our relationship in the past 3 weeks, and i encourage you to put everything you have into your marriage and talk openly with the therapist and your husband, but dont beat yourself up over the past, you can work through it together. i believe in you.