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November 10, 2005, 3:50 pm PST
Reality Bites
Quote From: loobylou
To all you people who are having problems in your marriage, the only way to make it work is to do what it takes TO BECOME BEST FRIENDS! Would you desrespect your best friend or talk to them like they are stupid or embarass them etc... NO!
So turn the TV off have a drink together go for a walk together talk about everything that comes to mind share secrets date each other compliment each other be thankful for what the other is doing for you, hold each other be funny be helpful. I'm sure you can come up with more yourselves.
Just dont be too surprised if it doesnt all lead to awesome feelings and awesome sex! What more would you want in life than to feel happy? So work at it! Most of all let your kids see you laugh and hug! Your email sounds very uplifting but in relaity it just doesn't always work that way. My first husband became mentally ill after many years of marriage. He became a pathological liar, sex addict and anti-social personality disorder. We went for a lot of counseling and attempted changes but unless both people want the same thing, it won't work. No matter how good of friends you are or think you are. In reality, some hurts can't be transcended. I prayed for God to bring me peace and he did. Just not in the way I expected it. I wound up kicking the cheating, sicko, ex to the curb, ran into my first love of my life, married him and he died shortly after we married. He was the best thing that ever happened to me, even if it was short lived. He did more for me and my self esteem in a few short years than the ex did in 26 years. Sometimes the best answer is to GET OUT and cut your losses. It is important to look out for yourself once it becomes apparent that your partner is not concerned with your feelings or your self respect. Children also need to see that the parent raising them has a healthy self image.
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