Replies to '06/02 "My Annoying Family"'

hello, 

first of all you should never change yourself to make someone else happy, always be yourself. Here is some examples, If they ignore you when someone else is around and they talk to others but not you. If you walk into the room and they act rudely and don't seem to greet you. Or if you laugh outloud and they turn up the t.v.  I know how you feel I am in the same situation and you pretty much know when they are tired of you. The only thing I know to tell you is maybe tone yourself down a little this might help, and keep all of the hugs to your husband. There is a lot of people out there that do not like to be hugged. It is their personal space and they feel offended if you disrupt that space.  

  

Hope this helps out a little. 

mandee_26 

"Now I can not be like them" 

  

 

 

  

 

Being loud and outgoing is a behavior that you can control.  Self control and being reserved is considered polite in some circles and when you are with them you should act accordingly.  Just because you act like you’re at a football game around your family does not mean you can't use self control elsewhere. 

  

 

 

  

 

It is a serious cop out just saying you have no self control.

  

 

  

Aloha Hula Girl, I'm from chilly New England - and my husband's family was that way when we were first going out. My family's like yours-VERY loud, very touchy-feely and I hug ALOT!! It's what I'm known for - and there's nothing that feels better than a great hug - never mind these A-frame excuses. My point: at some point before we got married, I realized that my in-laws were making ME uncomfortable, so, I explained that to them and announced that from that point on, when I came in, and again when I left I would be giving them each a kiss on the cheek. That was okay for the 1st year or so, as long as the kiss was accompanied by a handshake. After a while it progressed to being reciprocal and hugs were exchanged. My hubby & I have been married for almost 25 yrs and my in-laws are still very much with us - and still pretty formal, but hugs & kisses never really go out of style. I don't think your in-laws dislike you so much as they are a little in awe of you. Reserved people are usually more than a little shy. Be yourself (that's one of the reasons your husband married you), but be patient with your in-laws - your husband will love you for it! Aloha! Froshling (who hopes to retire to the Islands!)