Quote From: hopegrahamWell my husband just dumped me and my two babies still in diapers to run off with a married co-worker, and as far as a 10 year plan, I am still trying to make it day to day. The overwhelming anger and humiliation are giving me frequent panic attacks. I have to keep myself together in order to take care of my babies, so I cant even fall apart properly. And while I continue to soldier on for the sake of my children, he gets to run around with this homewrecker from cheap hotel to the next. I pray for justice. In today's society, I cant even legally confront her or even him properly, so I have to hope the man upstairs will take care of that along with protecting what is left of my shattered family. Plus, there is no real support for mothers like me; it is becoming so common place for men to walk off from their responsibilities that he wont even lose any friends over this. That doesnt seem right.
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Keep your mind on your children. Every day you get through is another day without him. Eventually, you will realize that you are doing it yourself. There is some great satisfaction in that. I still get really sad sometimes but I know I can make it on my own. My kids are my highest priority right now and they (selfishly) serve as a distraction from the pain of the entire situation. But one day you will wake up and realize you are feeling happier. I also try to appreciate all the wonderful things in life - the beauty of the world - fall leaves- the colors, the smell, the sun breaking through the clouds, a beautiful deer walking across the road who stops and looks me right in the eyes, (I am not religious but I thank God for showing me such beauty when I feel such pain ). These are little things but by focusing on good, not bad, it helps to surround yourself with happiness instead of gloom.
There will be bad days when you miss him but this is a chance to make new friends. Get invovled in your children's school. If they are not in school, go to the park and talk to people. Kids are a great way to meet other moms. It helps to surround yourself with friends. I also joined d a Displaced Homemakers Group with women going through the same things and I also joined an art class. I also remember that there are a lot of things I can do now and don't have to worry about what "he" wants to do or doesn't want to do. It is my choice now and I do like that aspect.
