Replies to '11/15 Dr. Phil and Robin's First Wives Club, Part 2'

I agree there is life after divorse.  It is hard.  I was married for 17 years when my husband left me for another woman.  I remember smelling her purfume and he would lie.  I'm not very good at these message boards.  But I will say the 2 lyin guys on the show today reminded me of my ex.  I'm sorry it is heart ripping to re-live it and remember it.

As soon as I saw the preview for this show, I was crying.  My husband moved out three weeks ago and doesn't know if he wants to stay married or not.  I feel so delicate right now.  Do you think this show would still help?  Right now, I feel like anything I do that has to do with divorce is just giving up, but yet, I know I'm not in control of this situation at all.  I'm a stay-at-home mom with two children (15 & 10) with not much of a support system where I live because I moved here seven years ago so he could be close to his family.  I'm alone and scared and so very depressed.

I totally agree with you.  I had Tivoed the two shows and watched them back to back and cried all day on Saturday after watching them.  I have also been in a 24 and a half year marriage that has suffered infidelty throughout the years.  I have stayed and just endured the situation and the pain.  Both of my kids are grown now and away at college.  I thought that when the last one left in 2004, I would kick him out.  Well, for some reason I haven't done that.  Watching the show the other day gave me the courage and I guess you could say permission to move on with my life.  I have decided to wait until after the holidays and have a good heart to heart with him and tell him how he has made me feel for all of these years.  I am a firm believer in till death do us part, but I think there comes a time when you just have to get past that.  I thought that staying for the kids was the right thing to do, but now that they are grown, I see the impact that has made on them in their relationships.  I really wish that Dr. Phil's show had been around when I was going through this difficult time early in my relationship.  I wish everyone out there that is going through this situation the best of luck and many happy times ahead.