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July 28, 2005, 3:46 am PDT

bbo301

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We have two children together, and financially I can handle things on my own.  IT is just hard to up and leave when there is no where to go.  He isn't willing to leave and I am afraid that if I leave he will track me down and hurt me physically.  Plus my credit stinks, mostly because of stuff together and I wouldn't be able to get much on my own.

I too have dealt with drug abuse with him and that was part of his problem in the past. 

I have not gotten to the point to leave I guess. I am afraid and I need to get over that fear.  It is coming, I can feel it.  ANd I guess when I have had enough, I will have the strength to leave. 

I know what I have to do, but I am just afraid of doing it!!!

 

Yes, everyone has to get to the point that they want to leave.  There is always somewhere to go.  Hotel if nothing else. 

 

You need to be open to help from all quarters.  Hopefully you have family or friends that could help short-term.

 

Stinky credit will be fixed in time.

 

Get legal counsel especially if he is violent.  You need to think about your kids.

 

I also suggest the abuse board, because this IS abuse.
 
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May 31, 2007, 7:28 am PDT

Infidelity

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We have two children together, and financially I can handle things on my own.  IT is just hard to up and leave when there is no where to go.  He isn't willing to leave and I am afraid that if I leave he will track me down and hurt me physically.  Plus my credit stinks, mostly because of stuff together and I wouldn't be able to get much on my own.

I too have dealt with drug abuse with him and that was part of his problem in the past. 

I have not gotten to the point to leave I guess. I am afraid and I need to get over that fear.  It is coming, I can feel it.  ANd I guess when I have had enough, I will have the strength to leave. 

I know what I have to do, but I am just afraid of doing it!!!

I've been reading your prob and I know how you feel.  My h was doing the whole internet thing and doing everything that I could do to save our marriage, I finally got enough courage to move out.  Like you, my credit isn't all that great, but if you go and get an apartment, most places only require a deposit along with your first rent payment.  You said you can handle things financially so I would try and see if moving out will help.  If you think he is going to hurt you physically, where ever you go, get the police involved.  Let them know the situation and keep them involved that way if something does happen, they're more willing to help.  Don't be afraid of anything in your life!!  THAT is his power over you right now and he knows you won't leave or do anything.  Be strong and do what it takes to make YOURSELF and your kids HAPPY!!!!
 
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