Quote From: ifonly2004hi was wondering if someone can help me out... my husband and i have been together for 3 years i have done plenty of things in the bedroom that i have never done before with others...now whenever we have a discussion he always bring up the fact that he would like to have another female in our bed for one night....Now is this normal when we have two children and he tells me that he loves me so much that it would be just a fantasy and one time thing but in the back of my mind i feel like its cheating and if he truly loved me then he wouldnt dare to suggest something like that... I am very shy when it comes to the bedroom and cant imagine me naked with someone else in the same bed...
I feel so hurt...he says that if it hurts me that he doesnt want me to do it, but just bringing it up makes me feel really hurt ,like he just ripped out my heart and stomped on it..please help
is this statement: "now whenever we have a discussion he always bring up the fact that he would like"...
He ALWAYS brings it up???
If he ALWAYS brings it up and you find the discussion painful and extremely hurtful, then someone isn't getting the message. Either he isn't listening to you or you aren't telling him just how hurtful this is.
If the idea of acting on his wishes feels like cheating to you then to you it IS cheating to YOU and you SHOULD NOT EVER CONSIDER IT. I suggest that you tell him to NEVER bring it up again and I suggest that you be COMPLETELY HONEST with him about just how painful this discussion is to you.
If he continue to bring it up, then this subject becomes a trust issue and could be considered abuse.
Having multiple partners takes an incredibly strong relationship -- there is just WAY too much room for even a one-time fling to RUIN a good relationship.
If you know that you can't handle it -- which is NORMAL -- for ALOT of partners, then you owe it to your partner to tell him, not only NO, but H3LL NO!!!!
Get his attention. Tell him NO MORE. Q
