Quote From: ladybugz01I'm 18 years old and have recently become a new mom. I thought the whole becoming a mom was something I would never be able to grasp completely, yet it has come so naturally(and I love it!!!!). Yet I do get jealous of my boyfriend who has more of an active social life than I do (it seems the only time I hear from the outside world is if family calls). I still try to stay in touch with my old friends, but conversations now between us are so difficult seeing as we practically have nothing in common anymore. I miss my old outgoing adventureous self, yet I love the time I spend with my 3 month old son. Being a stay-at-home mom has really hit me hard though, I hate being cooped up in the house while my boyfriend gets to go out on the weekends. I don't want my jealousy to ruin our relationship because of the resentment I get towards him when he gets to go out with his friends on the week nights and weekends. Don't get me wrong I love the time I spend with my son and I wouldn't give it up for anything. I just want to know if there's a way I can have more of a social life that won't effect the time spent with and bond with my precious boy. Any suggestions????
I understand completely! When my son was born last year, I felt completely cooped up alone and isolated. Every day I was staring at the same 4 walls while my husband was working 10-12 hour days, 5-6 days a week. Our friends stopped calling, since they were afraid to wake up the baby. Our parents do not live in the same city, so I had very little help.
I found some programs for new moms in my neighborhood. One program was story time and nursery rhymes, some were educational for the parent and playtime (when he got a little bit older). Some were for the mothers only and child care and a meal was provided. I met lots of moms with children the same age as my son and we became close friends. They understand what is like to be a mom and the every day stress (unlike your friends without children). Now we get together weekly for coffee or other activities and our children are also friends.
This really helped meet new people and I also realised that it's OK to be jealous and feel lonely at first. Now my son and I have more of a social life than my husband!
Hope this helps
