Quote From: misellfIt was hard listening to those women stories my husband started to leave for someone else we finally talked before he walked out on me and he stayed. Dr. Phil was right they are always warning signals. I should of asked questions then, also I felt like a piece of throwaway garbage when he talked about leaving after 18 years. I want to know from women do men ever leave ther wives without someone waiting to wash there clothes and cook there food for them? Because if that is the way women get men nowadays thats sad.
I am 51 years old and have been divorced for a year. Two years ago I found out that my spouse of 27 years had a double life going. Were there signs I ignored? You betcha! He fought the divorce only because of the financial liability. Translation: he didn't want to be forced to split his military retirement. I was devastated and saw myself in each of the women. I am also a Catholic but have applied for a sacremental annulment so that I am not "married" in the eyes of the Church.
I have found support groups and am amazed how many women have similar stories. I put my spouse first for many years, raised his children, entertained his bosses, did his laundry and listened (and believed) his criticism that I was less than a person.
I have come to realize that he is the loser in this. My children are adult but he buys them with gifts. What I hear is that he is miserable in the new relationship but is looking around and again will not leave until he has someone to pick up his dry cleaning for him.
I am looking forward to seeing part two.
