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Replies to '08/03 Torn Between Two Lovers, Part 1'
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August 5, 2005, 12:04 pm PDT
 Quote From: shayna8119 Unfortunately, I have been in a very similar situation. I cheated on my husband with a married man, got caught and then we both reconciled with our spouses. A few years later, I divorced my husband and the guy that I cheated on him with came back into my life once he found out I was divorced. Stupid me.... I fell for his lies. He divorced his wife and we got pregnant. He had overwhelming guilt for his ex-wife and 2 children and left me and married his exwife again. Since I also had 2 children and was in a herendous court battle with my ex-husband, all of this was extremely overwhelming and more than I could handle. I made the ultimate decision to abort the child. A decision I am still having to cope with daily and i hate myself for it. I was only thinking of myself, the other children involved and I thought that it was best for everyone if I did this. I was again wrong. After the abortion, the father of the baby crept his way back into my life apologizing for leaving me,etc. etc. etc. AGAIN... I TOOK HIM BACK EVEN AFTER ALL THAT HAD HAPPENED. It took over a year for his 2nd divorce to go through. In the meantime, I got pregnant again. This was something that we both agreed to and wanted. After his divorce was final, he waited around and continued to put off marrying me. Finally, we were married a month before the baby was born. We have been married now for 6 mos. It is absolutely miserable. I do not trust him at all. Never will because of our past. He continues to feel guilty about his exwife and children and I believe he still has a relationship with her. I am not allowed to be around his children so he has to spend the time with them away from me and our child. Our child does not even know their brother and sister. We are miserable. Sarah should know that even if she and he were together, it would NEVER work!!! I know from experience unfortunately. Well I have known my fiance for 12 years now, and we met each other when my first husband and him were best friends. I was kind of friends with a girl I had introduced to him..they were married for awhile and I had gotten a divorce with my first husband and was dating another guy when we lost contact with each other. I had ran back into him 3 years later and he was having problems with his marriage and she kicked him out and I was single. We got together and we've been together for 5 years now and we have a child. His ex is still upset I think with the whole thing and she doesn't talk to me, but we are happy. We've always been best friends. We joke with each other, compliment each other. We are a lot alike. At first he didn't want to leave his wife because he was afraid she would take the kids away from him. We did go through a hard time in the first year but we overcame it. This guy brad has cheated several times with his wife. He might cheat on sara, but you never know because Sara could be the one that makes him want to change, and fulfill him every way that his wife couldn't. I think its different for everybody. About the kids, thats true the kids do suffer, and Brad should decide whether he wants his wife or Sara because going back and forth does cause problems with children. |
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