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November 19, 2005, 8:36 pm PST
Dealing with the Added Stress
Quote From: mamatrishMy son will be 2 years old in December. Lately we have had alot of problems with him. He hads been hitting, pinching and kicking. I dont know where he picked this up. We dont hit him. when he gets angry or upset he wines, and cries and he's really mean to us. He tells us to go away, and he pushes us, and hits us. We have tried to talk to him calmly, and explain to him that there are other ways of dealing with anger. He never wants to listen or pay attention to us when we talk to him. Everything we do is a fight. Putting his clothes on, his coat, shoes, pj's. Bath time in and out. Bed time, meal time, play time. Everything is fight to begin with or to end with (usually its both and through out.) I dont know what to do woth him anymore. We have tried time outs, sending him to his room. taking things away like his fav. toy, or his blankie. It just doesnt seem to sink in. He just doesnt get it. I really really need some help. some advise. Its getting to the point where I dont even enjoy being around him. that makes me really upset cause I love him more then anything in the world.
Please help!!
mamatrish He definetly sounds like a stronwilled two year old. One thing Iwould suggest is that when he starts screaming and hitting and things like that, simply, just walk away and ignore him. when he calms down then try talking wioth him but remember, he is only two. Ma try lettinghim picking out his clothes, give him a couple of choices and let him pick out his towel and wash cloth before getting in the tub, maybe let him choose a couple of bath toys to go inwith him. Same thing with bed time and meal time, give him choices on what pj's he wants to put on a what toy he wants to play with, maybe start by putting some soft music on while he is getting dressed and for meals, let him help with preparing, he may be able to help stir or push the start button the microwave, or just give him a bowl with a tiny bit of flour in it for him to stir, waht ever, let him feel as if he has some control over the things he is doing. I am sure in time, he will overcome all this. Be patient and hang in there.
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