Quote From: angelmommaI really need some help making a decision. My family has not been close for years and years. My mom and dad divorced when I was 11 - I am now 49. I stayed with my mom cause I was the youngest and my borther (4 years older) and my sister (2 years older) went with my dad. I have seen or spoken with them a hand full of times in the last 30 some years. I make contact with them 2 years ago - calling my father and brother and did not get a warm reception. My dad said he would call me when he got back from Christmas with his step kids but have not heard from him in 2 years. My brother's wife sent me a card that I got yesterday. It said they would be in town from Iowa and "if I wanted to see them" I should call her brother. I don't know what to do. I don't want to be hurt and rejected again. My brother has told me that I am not in the family and my sistem has told me that they do not consider me family, never have and never will. Help - what do I do? My husband says he will support me either way but I only have a couple of days to decide. Anyone out there that can give me some advise?
My advice to you is yes, go and see him... but don't give him, or anyone else for that matter, the power to control your emotions or how you feel about yourself. If you don't take this one chance you have, you might regret it. Who knows when you might be able to see him again?
Is there any way that you could call and speak to your brother, or his wife, before the visit?? If you could just explain... that you were only a child... and that you really wish he could accept you. Its really so unfair that these people get to reject you for no reason, however, I urge you to not allow their opinions to define who you are. Empower yourself!! I wish you the best!
