Replies to 'Should We Get Pregnant?'

Trying to get pregnant is something you decide together, as a couple.... 

  

Why don't you just concentrate on school first, finished that, and enjoy life together with your boyfriend. You are still so young, enjoy your freedom for a while. 

  

You are definitely not ready to have a baby, if you don't discuss this with your boyfriend. Don't have secrets for him, that is just not right, and not the right way trying to start a family.... 

Are you REALLY willing to bring a child into this world to be resented by it's father ?  Why would you start your lives together with a lie ?

Having a child is a MUTUAL decision, or at least it should be.  If you are scared of him leaving you, guess what a child won't keep him there, and you know what else, if he dosen't WANT a child right now, bonding may NOT take place, and not only the child suffers, but so will you when he looks at you with contempt for trapping him into a situation he DID NOT WANT at the moment.  Twenty One, your biological clock is far from sounding alarms yet, you are a student, get out in the world, get a carreer first.

No I don't belive if you want a baby, just have one, it should be with the mutual consent of BOTH parties concerned, after all it is a LIFETIME commitment for BOTH parents, its not ALL about us ladies.

 Hi babe,
                 I so know how you are feeling 'cause I was once where you are. My ex and I started going out when I was 17, when I was about 19/20 I started to get the baby itch and what made it harder is that I worked with kids all day every day. I wanted a baby so much that I would hound him " When are we going to get married? ", " When can we have kids? " and so on. He wasn't ready yet, he was only 22 and trying to set himself up in a career he loves. I had thoughts run through my head about an " accidental " pregnancy, but then remembered that without honesty and trust you have no relationship. My ex and I were together for 5 years before we finally called it quites. He wanted his career and I wanted a family. I was ready to go where ever he did but he wanted to do it on his own and after awhile my feelings for him had gone. Now we are really good friends, but I'd have to say he kicks himself for not holding on to me 'cause guess who wants to settle down and have kids now ! I am now 23 going to be 24 soon and I'm glad I didn't get pregnant, there is so much more to life you and your partner can share before you make that step and if you do make sure he is apart of it, it is much more satisfying knowing you are doing this together rather than deceiving the man you love.

Also before you do anything ( that is if you haven't already ) go to topic " conception deception " you might change your mind about a few things.
 
Good luck and I hope you make the right choices for yourself and the child you want.
                                                                                                                                                      

To be honest with you I would wait. I would finish school, and sit and have that discussion with your boyfriend. I really don't think your ready for a baby it takes a lot of work and you don't know what complications you might come across during and after your pregnancy. I wish I would of finished college before I started to have children, It's still my goal but now I have to pay for child care ( which isn't cheep) and it takes my time away from my son I currently have one on the way. I husband is in the army so we are financially OK. My biggest fear is that something happening to my husband and I don't have anything to fall back on. There is a lot to think through. I would even talk to a premarital counselor about your situation.