Quote From: maryannparI had this problem with my ex-husband. he is an attorney and said that my daughter was 14 and could make her own decision about where to live. I told her that if she wanted to live with her Dad I would fight for her. She liked being there because she could do anything she wanted. My ex fought me constantly, played her against me and basically put her in the middle. What he really wanted was not to pay child support. though my daughter remained with me, he was always manipulating her and causing emotional stress. Ibelieve this led to bad choices, confusion, and etc. which ultimately led to her death in a car accident. Do not let this happen to you. She needs stability in her life and so do you and the ex. You have to find a way to both spend time with her and make her feel loved and appreciated, not like a pawn in a chess game. I know it is difficult but it is too important not to keep trying.
When I left this message, I never thought I would hear such devastating news. I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like there is a lot of unresolved hurt. I don't know what to say. I haven't walked in your shoes. Although I know that you are right, as far as the child support issues go, please don't blame your x for the death of your child. This is so devastating.
My prayers are with you as you deal with such a sad situation. Thank you for your response. I will definitely keep my daughter close to my heart so that she doesn't make choices that will cost her dearly.
