Replies to 'Tired of Being Single'

Eve, never try to change into something you are not. Be your true self. If guys don't like that, it's their problem not yours. They miss out on a good person. Please stay your authentic self.

 

Jo-

It is so important to be who you are and love yourself as you are.  That doesn't mean that you can't change things about yourself that YOU want to change.  You should never change things about yourself in order to make someone else happy or to make them desire you.  You should want someone to love you as you are and not something that they want you to be.

Are there things about yourself that you would like to change or improve because it will make you feel better?  I recently joined a gym because I wanted to drop some weight and tone up.  I am doing this to make myself happy and feel better about my appearance.  There is nothing wrong about looking your best and feeling good about yourself.  Get a new hairstyle, get a new outfit or get your nails done.  Do something for you.

You will find that people are attracted to confidence.  If you are feeling good about who you are and are confident about who you are and what you believe in, it will be noticed.  If you have never seen the movie "Runaway Bride" with Julia Roberts, I would suggest it.  She was always trying to mold who she was to each person she was with and realizes that she can't truly love anyone until she knew who she was and could love herself.

Let us know how you are doing.

As long as you THINK you're not good enough, men will pick up on that and stay away from you. You need to literally CHANGE YOUR MIND. There is a book by that title, written by Angela Treat Lyon. It's all about EFT -  Emotional Freedom Technique - it's about changing your thought processes by tapping into your subconscious mind and releasing all the negative messages. Check out her website at www.EFTbooks.com - she has weekly teleclasses and I've been listening in for a few months and have her book - very cool! I think you'll find it helpful and quite amazing!

It's not as bad as it seems, just have to quit looking so hard for someone to love and care for you period. Just let it happen... I'm still waiting but someday without forcing it, it will come to you. I'm in the one of the worlds hardest professions and can't even get a date due to it stay with some one long enough to were they give up and run away or find someone else(the military) I am currently serving in Afghanistan and this is what I do and one of these days I will find someone just like you will. It will be standing in front of you before you know it, just quit killing yourself by looking so hard. Let it come to you like you walking across the street and a bus hitting you before you know it. The southern-boy theory.  

  

signed: 

marc_marcus172@yahoo.com 

It's not as bad as it seems, just have to quit looking so hard for someone to love and care for you period. Just let it happen... I'm still waiting but someday without forcing it, it will come to you. I'm in the one of the worlds hardest professions and can't even get a date due to it stay with some one long enough to were they give up and run away or find someone else(the military) I am currently serving in Afghanistan and this is what I do and one of these days I will find someone just like you will. It will be standing in front of you before you know it, just quit killing yourself by looking so hard. Let it come to you like you walking across the street and a bus hitting you before you know it. The southern-boy theory.  

  

signed: 

marc_marcus172@yahoo.com 

That's your first problem, your goal is not to be what someone else wants in a girlfriend, just find out who you are and be yourself. Go and do the things you enjoy and one day someone will walk into your life and you'll discover that the two of you enjoy a lot of the same things, therefore both of you can be yourselves. 

  

Are there things that you've never done before but always wanted to, new things to learn, new places to see?? Discover what those things are and go and do them. 

  

Also, if you don't think you're good enough then why should someone else? You give out a vibe whether you realize it or not. People can sense your low esteem and dislike for yourself. You need to discover and love yourself before finding someone to share your life with you.