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Replies to '06/02 "My Annoying Family"'
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November 18, 2005, 7:40 am PST
 Quote From: edblood Dr Phil: I just turned on your show. I have been watching faithfully all week, as your issues have been extremely important to me. Today I turned off your show. The two women you started the show with hurt me deeply. In two years and one day, I have lost most of my family - Mother and Father within a week of each other, my baby sister, my youngest daughter, and my soulmate, my husband. He was the joy of not only my life, but every life he touched. His funeral was filled to capacity with people who spoke - "He was my best friend". He was full of life and "annoying habits". That's what made him who he was. He died young, but he did living a FULL life. What I would give to have him here - annoying habits and all. Please tell these two women to imagine what their lives would be like without these two full-of-life men. After intense therapy, I started to live again, accepting my lot in life. I re-married another man to fill the void. Six months ago, I found out he was having an affair with a younger woman (more than half his age), and he continues to go through woman after woman. He did this to me after all my losses, and he has no regrets -- it's all my fault. Well, Dr. Phil, I have learned that this is not my fault, it is a person who is needy and needs others to full the empty void he walks around with. I am now back on drugs and my doctor is setting up further help for me with a professional, but warns me it may take some time to get "connected" with this therapist. In the meantime, I have you, Dr. Phil, and my pills. I wish you were more accessable to people like me. I certainly come away from your shows with new insights. I need HUGE help in my life now, and these two women are so worried about petty, and some of the fun things in life. God help them to see the light before something tragic happens to them, and they end up like zombies wondering what happened. Please women, lighten up and smell the roses. They are beautiful. They can save you from total insanity. HI; I JUST READ YOUR POST, FIRST, I WANT TO SAY THAT I FEEL FOR YOU IN YOUR LOSSES, AND THEN, ON TOP OF ALL THAT, THE MAN YOU MARRY TURNS OUT TO BE A SELFISH JERK; I TRULY HOPE THAT YOU'RE REALISING THAT YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF IN OTHER WAYS BESIDES HAVING A MAN IN YOUR LIFE. SECOND, TO ADDRESS WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT THE WOMEN ON THE SHOW "these two women are so worried about petty, and some of the fun things in life." WELL, FOR ONE THING, THESE "ANNOYANCES" ARE HAPPENING TO THEM, NOT YOU, AND THEY HAVE FEELINGS, AND WHAT THEIR HUSBANDS ARE SAYING AND DOING IS HURTING THEIR FEELINGS; I HAD TO POINT THIS OUT TO MY OWN HUSBAND; HE'D SAY THINGS SIMILAR TO THOSE HUSBANDS ON THE SHOW; I TOLD HIM THAT THE COMMENTS WEREN'T GETTING HIM WHAT HE WANTED, AND THEN HE REALISED THAT IT WAS HURTING NOT ONLY MY FEELINGS, BUT HURTING THE TRUST AND FRIENDSHIP IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. I BELIEVE THAT ALL THESE WOMEN WERE ASKING FOR IS SOME DIGNITY AND RESPECT OUT OF THEIR HUSBANDS. I DO BELIEVE THAT THEY CHERISH THEM AND LOVE THEM, BUT TO TELL THEM TO "LIGHTEN UP" IS DISMISSING THEIR FEELINGS ABOUT THE RUDE OR INAPPROPRIATE COMMENTS AND OTHER GESTURES. YOU NEVER REALLY KNOW HOW SOMEONE FEELS ABOUT THINGS UNTIL YOU'VE WALKED IN THEIR SHOES. |
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November 18, 2005, 8:55 am PST
Quote From: edblood Dr Phil: I just turned on your show. I have been watching faithfully all week, as your issues have been extremely important to me. Today I turned off your show. The two women you started the show with hurt me deeply. In two years and one day, I have lost most of my family - Mother and Father within a week of each other, my baby sister, my youngest daughter, and my soulmate, my husband. He was the joy of not only my life, but every life he touched. His funeral was filled to capacity with people who spoke - "He was my best friend". He was full of life and "annoying habits". That's what made him who he was. He died young, but he did living a FULL life. What I would give to have him here - annoying habits and all. Please tell these two women to imagine what their lives would be like without these two full-of-life men. After intense therapy, I started to live again, accepting my lot in life. I re-married another man to fill the void. Six months ago, I found out he was having an affair with a younger woman (more than half his age), and he continues to go through woman after woman. He did this to me after all my losses, and he has no regrets -- it's all my fault. Well, Dr. Phil, I have learned that this is not my fault, it is a person who is needy and needs others to full the empty void he walks around with. I am now back on drugs and my doctor is setting up further help for me with a professional, but warns me it may take some time to get "connected" with this therapist. In the meantime, I have you, Dr. Phil, and my pills. I wish you were more accessable to people like me. I certainly come away from your shows with new insights. I need HUGE help in my life now, and these two women are so worried about petty, and some of the fun things in life. God help them to see the light before something tragic happens to them, and they end up like zombies wondering what happened. Please women, lighten up and smell the roses. They are beautiful. They can save you from total insanity. I agree 100%. I found those brother's quite funny and you could tell they meant no harm. I could see how much they love their wives and they are just trying to make the best of their lives. My word, would they rather have an abusive husband??? Becky was full of life and funny too but I do think maybe she should cut the cussing. Laugh and enjoy life, as long as you don't hurt anyone. The sisters may just be a bit too serious. |
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