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November 19, 2005, 11:44 am PST

11/21 Childhood Secrets

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I am now 50yrs old. My stepfather repeatly raped me from the time I was about 9yrs old. (Hurts too much to try to remember my age this first time he raped me.) At the age of 12yrs old is when I started having periods. I told him, to never touch me again. When he raped me the first time he told me: "Do not tell your mother or anyone else what has happened or I will KILL your mother and everyone else". He reminded me of this everytime he raped me. After, my divorce from my first husband...my daughter (at that time was 2-3yrs old, I was 40-41yrs old.) lived in rental that was owned my one of my stepfathers friends. My stepfather would come over to my house all the time, even though I told him repeatedly not to come to just leave me alone. He would say things to me like; if you just say the words I'll divorce your mother and marry you! HOW GROSS! HOW DARE HIM! I finally had had enough of him and got enough courage to tell my mother about it. She asked my step-sisters and step-brother about it and they ALL lied! To this day, I don't think my mother believes me. And my siblings are still lieing about it. He is dead now! He died of natural causes. My siblings do not know what kind of emotions I have had all these years. All these years I have been paranoid and felt as though my siblings have back stabbed me. The ONLY way I have been able to cope is through God! If it was not for my faith in God, I would not be here today!

I am so glad you had your faith to help you through this horrible nightmare. It does help to know that there is One who knows your heart and loves you completely. 

  

The thing you said that worried me is that you have lived your whole life feeling paranoid and felt your siblings back stabbed you.  You don't know their story or what this monster did and said to them, so please don't judge them harshly. If you still let this horrible man affect you today, therapy can help you break free of his clutches.  It always saddens me to see how much control these monsters can have over their victims-even after they die! Don't let him steal another year from you. 

 
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November 19, 2005, 7:19 pm PST

11/21 Childhood Secrets

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I am now 50yrs old. My stepfather repeatly raped me from the time I was about 9yrs old. (Hurts too much to try to remember my age this first time he raped me.) At the age of 12yrs old is when I started having periods. I told him, to never touch me again. When he raped me the first time he told me: "Do not tell your mother or anyone else what has happened or I will KILL your mother and everyone else". He reminded me of this everytime he raped me. After, my divorce from my first husband...my daughter (at that time was 2-3yrs old, I was 40-41yrs old.) lived in rental that was owned my one of my stepfathers friends. My stepfather would come over to my house all the time, even though I told him repeatedly not to come to just leave me alone. He would say things to me like; if you just say the words I'll divorce your mother and marry you! HOW GROSS! HOW DARE HIM! I finally had had enough of him and got enough courage to tell my mother about it. She asked my step-sisters and step-brother about it and they ALL lied! To this day, I don't think my mother believes me. And my siblings are still lieing about it. He is dead now! He died of natural causes. My siblings do not know what kind of emotions I have had all these years. All these years I have been paranoid and felt as though my siblings have back stabbed me. The ONLY way I have been able to cope is through God! If it was not for my faith in God, I would not be here today!
I understand what you are going through and believe me Faith in God has got to be the strongest way to get through things like this. I think your family is in denial and just can't accept that one that they love and care for would do such a thing but you cannot change them and their thoughts and attitudes, you need to work on you and know that no matter what that you are worth more then this person made you think, do not let him control your thoughts and your life, Talk and associate with people that you trust and who will listen and accept you for who you are, Do whatever you need to do to make things right for you, Love your self for the person that God created you to be and go for yuor dreams. I know it is easier said then done but with prayer, faith and determination, it can get easier to dealw ith and life can be fullfilled for you. My prayers are with you.
 


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