Quote From: lh2000You can’t blame the evil step kids; the bottom line is the parent sets the tone for the relationship. If kids are walking all over the stepparent then the parent is 100% responsible. Stepparents cannot enforce rules or enforce discipline that is the parent's responsibility. A parent who will not ensure their kid's treat their stepparent with respect is doomed to repeat another failed marriage. Any parent who brings in a stepparent in to their kids lives has to accept responsibility for ensuring that both the kids and stepparent are capable of handling the changes to their lives.
I don't know why people remarry when they have teens anyway. Why not wait until the kids move out?
And who has time to date and fall in love if they are focused on raising kids anyway?
I understand that my H is responsible for setting the tone for the relationship. He doesn't - so she knows what she can get away with. As the step-parent, I am the head of the household for 80% of their daily lives while their dad is at work.
Not sure why people remarry when they have teens? LOVE. The kids weren't teens when we started dating 6 years ago. I don't have any children of my own, and we have discussed having a child together. The kids just moved in with us 2 months AFTER we got married... so I didn't have the full scope of how the relationship would play out in the day to day living with the kids underfoot.
