How true! We all bring our "baggage" from childhood into our relationships and then contaminate those relationships. But that IS our fault. As adults, it's up to us to recognize our problems, deal with those problems and do everything in our power not to pass them on to our children. We do not have the right to continue to put all the blame on our bad pasts.
Too many people today are selfish and work on impulse. If it feels good to them at the time, then they justify it. They often do not put what is BEST (not necessarily easy) for children first.
I came from an emotionally abusive family. My mother was my support. My only sibling was abusive like my father. I recognized that the way my mother and I were treated was NOT correct and although I sometimes found that anger, impatience, nervousness and meanness in me, I worked VERY HARD not to continue the cycle. When problems do flare up, I talk with my children and explain my behavior the best I can. I ask their forgiveness and I continue to work toward total emotional health.
I, along with my husband, am raising two very emtionally healthy, bright, compassionate children and like any other job, it's not always easy. But I am the ADULT and it's my job to work on my own problems and NOT pass them on to my children.
