Quote From: mari3kids Oh my God, you are living my life!! I am at my wits end as well, it is causing major strain in the relationship. My stepdtr is a slut and dresses trashy, acts, speaks you name it, she does it. Their behaviours are almost identical. I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you, I'm struggling too. However I do console myself with this: This is not my daughter, not my problem, if the two parents cannot see the damage that they are doing to their daughter, long term then there is not much I can do about it. I too get extremely anxious when I know she is coming over, for there is ALWAYS some sort of drama that we have to deal with. Currently, she is staying at a hotel through the week, mon-fri - the mom works nights there and she stays the night to go to the school that SHE wants to go to. She doesn't want to go to the one that the bus picks her up at the door. and thinks we should all drive her 40 minutes out of everyones way so she can do what she wants. She tells us she has made up her mind and isn't budging. And what do the parents do? Whatever she tells them to. It makes me sick to watch her manipulate my hb and then I get so angry with him. He is the reason she is the way she is and he will have no one to blame when she cannot function as an adult. I feel sorry for us. and yes I could go on and on and on,
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Well, my fiance and I had a long discussion about this show the other night and the way I see it as the way things are with us. He doesn't like the fact that she would be considered his surrogate wife. I have been telling him this since we got together at the end of May. He said he hasn't been having her come over here to our house until some things get worked out. I told him it isn't going to do her any good to stay away and not be involved. He said he doesn't want to put it all on her so fast all at one time...I told him he needs to stop babying her and she needs to deal with life sometime - it isn't going to go away. So since she hasn't been over for 2-3 weeks he had made plans - without my knowing - to take her out. Well, since I didn't know anything about it his plans backfired and it didn't happen because of his obligations here. So, his rude, disrespectful daughter hung up on him.
The only time she even comes around or wants anything to do with her dad is when he is buying her something. He doesn't agree. I have told him all she cares about are material things and not about the relationship. I told him that when she does come over here she doesn't pay much attention to him - it is all with my daughter - and when my daughter isn't here or doesn't pay all her attention to her she leaves.
He said if he had the money right now like he did before he would be buying my kids everything they wanted to and I said no you wouldn't - I won't let you. I don't want my kids to end up being spoiled brats and I want them to know what it is like to have to work for what they want and feel the accomplishment of it. They aren't going to learn to expect everything and that they deserve everything - to be handed over to them. He just doesn't get it.
My daughter said that my fiances daughter doesn't even talk to her anymore at school, which doesn't surprise me. She gets what she wants when she comes over here and that is for my daughter to treat me like s**t and all the attention on her and what she wants so it doesn't matter when she isn't here.
