Replies to '11/22 "Yours, Mine & Ours"'

I was reading through alot of the posts and am floored that this many families have this kind of a problem to this much of an extreme! 

My two daughters are good friends four kids from the same family.  Dad has five kids from the first marriage, four of which live full time with him and his second wife (he's 36, she's 26).  They have one child together.  Fact is, I don't know what their secret is (they should write a book!), but these kids ADORE their stepmom.  All of the kids are well adjusted, happy, respectful, and well behaved.  Stepmom (they don't even consider her to be anything other than their secondary mom, and the kids still see their bio mom all the time) has been in their lives since they were very young.  Both parents are strict but balance that with alot of love and understanding.  I think these people should have been on the show to demonstrate the right way to make this work.   I think partly why this works so well for them is that bio and step moms are friends.  Bio mom has said many times that as far as she's concerned stepmom is mom to them because she does an excellent job.  She says this in front of the kids, showing support for stepmom.   

I think it's great that these people have made this situation work so well.  It's not easy to get along with your ex.  But it's best for the kids when the parents put their differences aside and show a united front in raising the children.  It's a shame that more people aren't able to do this!