Quote From: mswing10As the daughter of a 3 1/2 year old, I'm wondering why you would assume that these people "dont' want to be parents". You cannot possibly understand the thoughts of the parents you see that define their actions. They may not feel this way or be lazy, they may just believe in a different type of parenting - a more free approach. They may also have had poor parenting themselves. To say that they don't want to be parents or are lazy is an assumtion on your part, that is in my opinion, a bit lazy as well. Lazy and assumptive thinking.
As I said before, perhaps they are following parenting advise from a very liberal source. And perhaps that liberal practice is not what works with that particular child. Every child is different. Not just because of their age, or sex, but because of their personality type, or if they have their own agenda. Heather at almost 7 years old was very manipulative, and testing to see how far she can push the new step dad, and let me tell you she almost pushed me right out the door.
Now she turns 18 next month, we are closer than any biological child - dad I know, and she is the apple of my eye. She will tell you, she has me wrapped around her little finger, but that is O.K. because I rather have that than the war I lived through back then.
My son 10, is very sweet, patient and sentimental. He cries at anything, suffers from ADD, but is otherwise a fun kid to be around. He does not like me as much as he likes his mom, but that is o.k. too, as Heather does not like her mom as much as she likes me. There is a balance, but it took 11 months in therapy to find it. Very well worth it.
