Quote From: lauralp3First, I'd like to say thank you for your ideas! I greatly appreciate it! Well, my sister has looked into everything for her province (Quebec) and according to doctors, police, attornys, detox and all, there is nothing she can do...he, my nephew has to "want" the help. It's crazy because he isn't thinking, the drugs are! As for her moving here, well, he wouldn't go for that and he isn't living with her all the time since he is in his 20's now. He just recently moved in with a girl who has a young 3 month old and who just last month attempted suicide herself! My nephew goes back to the house only once in awhile, when he's in trouble, needs food, etc. So, moving here isn't an option really since he wouldn't come. And you are right, this situation is as extreme as I can imagine! I just hope I never have to go through this with my own children! Again, thank you for all your advice and just for taking time to write back!:)
Oh, you're very welcome, but I just realized something! With all the things you mention that your sister has tried, there's nothing in there about AA or Alanon. I know AA is active in Quebec, and this is something your sister needs to get plugged into.
I say this because of your statement that your nephew only goes home when he's in trouble or needs food. Your sister needs to understand why it's very destructive for her to give him shelter or food while he's using drugs. This is classic "enabling" and it's actually harmful to the addict in the long run. AA (or Alanon) will help her understand why she needs to try the "tough love" approach and what steps she needs to take.
It's always trickier when there are questions relating to someone's competence, but if he's got enough sense to show up at Mom's house when he needs something, he's obviously capable of thinking things through.
So if your sister hasn't gotten involved with one of these groups, she really needs to do so.
