Quote From: cindy1970I am so upset about my situation, and don't know what to do. We have been married for 11 years, and have two kids. My husband has always used different excuses as to why he cheated on me. The last time, he had a relationship with another woman, that was married also. He says he has stopped seeing her, and wants to work on our marriage, but I am just so hurt, and feel like a fool. Also, I don't trust that he has stopped seeing her. I still love him very much, but I also have a lot of anger and hurt. So many of my friends say just dump him, and I know I should, but I keep thinking about how hard it would be to be without him. I know he has major emotional problems, and it's not my fault that he has these affairs. No matter how I was, he would still do it, and unless he changes, will with anyone he's with in the future. Is there an easier way to get over these feelings? It's affecting my career, my children, my life. I think about it all the time, because I see her quite a bit since they live in the same town, or other things that instantly remind me of the affair. I have to say I can't imagine being without him, but I'm hurting being with him too, and wonder why I would still want to be his wife. Anyone have any answers?
You are not "with" this man. PLEASE tell me you do not sleep with him. He is a serial cheater that needs you to take care of his home, children, finances, provide clean sex AND bring in an income. He comes home to leave his laundry.
Does hoochies husband know what has gone on? He should be informed. Anonymous letter is fine.
Anger is a good thing. Have you ever really let him have it? Very therapeutic. Don't do it if he is violent though. My H is a wuss. Brave enough to cheat, just not brave enough to face me.
You will never have all the answers. And you cannot love him enough to make him change. That is his job. Don't take his word for things either. Actions speak the loudest.
Emotional issues are HIS to fix. And NONE of his reasons for cheating are valid.
I always advocate financial protection. Your own bank accounts which have half of joint assets AND your paycheck in them. Get your own credit card. Get a consult with a real shark divorce lawyer. Should cost under $100. Goodness knows H has spent that sum wining and dining his hoochies. findlaw.com and nolo.com will give you some legal ideas.
