Replies to '11/22 "Yours, Mine & Ours"'

I have from day one tried to get along with her for the sake of the kids....I know we'll never be friends but we should be able to get along for their sake.  She tells me that my job as stepmom is hard and she wouldn't want to be one.  She says she agrees with what hubby has decided to do to discipline the kdis etc and then she does the opposite (who are we to rule what she does?).  She creates problems that don't need to be there at all.  The kids are 13 (boy) and 15 (girl).  She has three other children -- 10 year old boy by second husband who lives with his dad but she never sees him and then she has two boys ages 2 and 4 months old that live with her and her third husband.  We have two other children -- a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl (our daughter is three months younger than her son).   Everytime the kids go there for a weekend they come back with major attitude and sharp tongues...but we try and give them a break as we know it isn't easy on them...Her 13 year old son wants to live with her and we did everything we could to help this to happen but the next step was his mom's and she hasn't done anything to help it to happen since September (although she tells him that he could come and live with her...she won't notarize and file papers with the court).  I agree about the classes idea but I know she wouldn't go!