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Hey there Buddy, 

I am seeing a psychologist here in Cape Town now as a result of this. I have been astounded at how this has affected me. We are now going to deal with all of that. I have downloaded a tip from the good Doc and I am including it here, apologies Doc for the gender "bending" liberties I have taken... 

Does she really even make you happy? Be honest with yourself about the extent to which she's really meeting your needs. Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish she was. Dr. Phil reminds a guest: "There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things. And then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'" Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.

Bud, Anger does only one thing, it eats you up from the inside and has you douing some pretty wierd stuff. I don't wanna face Dr Phil when he says to me "WHAT WERE YOU THINKING??!!" 

Best of luck in dealing with Sara, and I hope you can forgive her and move past this. Get on with YOUR life, it is the best thing you can do for yourself, great that you are taking a vacation in Florida, I am going to see my kids this weekend, and I will be visiting my folks for the Christmas weekend. 

God bless you 

Ali