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I have a 14 month old daughter and her temper is getting out of control. She is throwing herself down and banging her head against the floor if she doesn't get her way. I do not know where she learned this behavior from. I only have one child so I never had to deal with this from a parents point of view. My brother acted this way when he was younger. Is it hereditary? I tried to pick her up and set her on the couch when she was acting this way but that did not help. I tried to ignore thinking she is doing this for attention but that doesn't seem to work. For the most part she is an excellent child. I am a stay at home mom so most of my attention is on her. Does anyone think that is why she acts this way.
This is an example of what happened today. I was making her lunch. I opened the refridgerator to get something out. She then stood in the fridge and when I asked her to move she screamed at me. I then picked her up and moved her out of the way so I could close the door. she started screaming not crying screaming and threw herself to the floor. I am worried that this is going to get worse over the years any advice is appreciated. She only reacts this way with me. What am I doing wrong? Please give me a suggestion as to how to handle this behavior I really don't know what to do.
It may be just her starting the terrible twos. That can actually start before two it depends on the child. All three of my older children did the same thing. My son was the worst if someone would have came up to the door they would have thought I was abusing him. It is not because she is getting most of your attention. I think maybe she may just be testing her boundries with you. How long do you ignore her before you give her you attention again? Believe me I know it can be hard to do but she will do it as long as she can if she know you will eventually give in and do or say something to her. At this age it can really turn into a battle of wills and if she knows she will eventually when she may get worse as she grows, but if you are willing to let her scream for an hour she will eventually get tried of it and move on to something else. That is what worked with my daughters.
In my son's case it did not get worse, but it did not get better either until he was 6 (he is now 8) and diagnosed with ADHD and put on medication. Now don't get worried or upset, because it is way to early to tell for sure with your daughter. My son was also doing things that could have possibly put him in danger, like climbing on every thing. I have one more son that is 8 months old and I am already trying to prepare myself for the same thing with him so it won't sneak up on me. Sometimes these things can also be hereditary also, did your brother grow out of it? If he did, your daughter may too. Good luck .
